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01-27-2014 07:09 PM
wolfy dog
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Originally Posted by ozzymama View Post
This might be the most unpopular post ever, and I am putting on my flame retardant suit.

I find these posts a bit manipulative, in the same way Zeeva's mother uses manipulation and scare tactics to receive support, induce support, I sometimes think Zeeva does the same, on this board and the other. I am no stranger to the abyss that is mental illness, but I also know, those of us who have struggled with it, have used it at times as a manipulative tool to make us feel better - but it is not an answer or cure for what is really wrong. There are too many negative, down posts, without any real constructive, forward momentum. Not even trials and failures, just constantly down. It leads me to believe (because I have used the same tactics, I do feel qualified to post) it is simply emotional gathering, with no clear direction for the person to go and no direction thought of or initiated by the person posting.
Like the "emotional vampires" we hear of in today's psychological folk-lore.

Zeeva, I will speak to you now, the same thing I said on the other board, get help, call a crisis line, your husband may be a physician, but you are not being taken care of and he is either ignorant or ambivalent of what is in front of him. In the US, just as Canada, there are resources to help you, I believe you are abused by your mother and perhaps others. There is help, you have to ask for it. You have to stop the emotional blackmail you pull on these boards, deleting facebook, leaving these messages - get help. You know very well what will happen to your animals in shelters, stop emotionally blackmailing members here and get some help. You are doing to others exactly what your mother does, if you want to be her, continue, I am sure there are members who will put up with it, otherwise, get help. The US will help you, the members here will help you, stop playing passive-agressive, coquettish games.
I felt the same way, just couldn't find the guts to post it. Thanks for doing this. If we continue to feed this after everything has been said, we are just enablers and not of any help anymore.
01-27-2014 07:01 PM
GatorBytes Hey Zeeva!

Just got this in my FB...thought I'd share with you!

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01-16-2014 07:38 PM
selzer After my initial post on this thread, I have avoided it. Partly because there is nothing people on the internet can do for someone, whose name, location, etc, we do not know. Partly because the advice to go and get help has been given, and that is all people on the internet should do for someone who is posting as though they are seriously in need of it.

Zeeva, you have a number of animals, so do I. Even one less, makes a difference when you are having a hard time just doing the basics. Beyond going and getting the help, I think you should maybe seriously consider finding a home for one or two of your critters, lighten the burden a little. Otherwise, one day you are going to take the lot of them to the shelter.
01-16-2014 07:29 PM
KatsMuse
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Originally Posted by Schaferhunde View Post
I really hope she's ok, I'm starting to worry.
Just heard from her...she states she's fine.
01-16-2014 06:18 PM
ozzymama This might be the most unpopular post ever, and I am putting on my flame retardant suit.

I find these posts a bit manipulative, in the same way Zeeva's mother uses manipulation and scare tactics to receive support, induce support, I sometimes think Zeeva does the same, on this board and the other. I am no stranger to the abyss that is mental illness, but I also know, those of us who have struggled with it, have used it at times as a manipulative tool to make us feel better - but it is not an answer or cure for what is really wrong. There are too many negative, down posts, without any real constructive, forward momentum. Not even trials and failures, just constantly down. It leads me to believe (because I have used the same tactics, I do feel qualified to post) it is simply emotional gathering, with no clear direction for the person to go and no direction thought of or initiated by the person posting.
Like the "emotional vampires" we hear of in today's psychological folk-lore.

Zeeva, I will speak to you now, the same thing I said on the other board, get help, call a crisis line, your husband may be a physician, but you are not being taken care of and he is either ignorant or ambivalent of what is in front of him. In the US, just as Canada, there are resources to help you, I believe you are abused by your mother and perhaps others. There is help, you have to ask for it. You have to stop the emotional blackmail you pull on these boards, deleting facebook, leaving these messages - get help. You know very well what will happen to your animals in shelters, stop emotionally blackmailing members here and get some help. You are doing to others exactly what your mother does, if you want to be her, continue, I am sure there are members who will put up with it, otherwise, get help. The US will help you, the members here will help you, stop playing passive-agressive, coquettish games.
01-16-2014 03:47 PM
Schaferhunde I really hope she's ok, I'm starting to worry.
01-16-2014 03:17 PM
carmspack there are resources that you can help you through difficult times . do you have a family doctor , a person in your faith , at the very least please phone your local crisis center hot line and they will help you .
01-14-2014 07:04 PM
ShenzisMom I have been in your shoes. Please seek help, have yourself admitted.
Your brain has gone ROGUE. These are not your feelings. These feelings are intrusive, an unwelcome visitor. Please, go to the professionals. If you need to talk, please pm me. You need professional help. There is a life after this. I promise you.IT GETS BETTER. The first step is getting your butt ithrough the hospital doors. After you take those steps in, you will feel a relief. The burden will be gone from your shoulders. You just have to walk in.
01-14-2014 04:02 PM
kiya I just saw this too. Sorry your feeling this way. As long as they are only thoughts not actions. I sometimes want to drive my truck into a cement wall. But my critters need me, hubby too. Sometime life stinks and I wonder what the point is. Meds are not a bad thing you really need them at least a year.
I try to justify my lack of friends for my own sanity. Sometimes they cause more pain and heartbreak than they are worth. But you always have that small handful of people that somehow stay with you your whole life even though you don't see them anymore, those are friends.
Last year my whole life changed when we found out my husband has cancer. I sort of crawled into a hole and I'm trying to plug along and live as normal a life as we can.
I'm going back to yoga class's soon if helps me get grounded . Hang in there your far from alone.
01-14-2014 03:45 PM
Daisy&Lucky's Mom Zeeva just saw the thread . Sending all kinds of positive thoughts your way.
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