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12-10-2013 04:15 PM
ken k
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Originally Posted by Lilie View Post
I tend to think what is done is done. You can't take the car back. But you can think long and hard the next time ya'll want to provide any assistance to his son again.
this, and I might add 30 years old?, you dont need any help from mom and dad
12-10-2013 04:06 PM
Gretchen
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Originally Posted by WateryTart View Post
OH HECK NO.

That's crap.
It's OK, its a temporary situation, I'm waiting to buy my first new car, a Honda Crosstour but they are not in stock at the dealerships yet. The car I enjoyed driving was just having too many problems and thought I'd sell it while it still had some value.
12-10-2013 03:55 PM
KatsMuse
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Originally Posted by Lilie View Post
I tend to think what is done is done. You can't take the car back. But you can think long and hard the next time ya'll want to provide any assistance to his son again.

FWIW - I would be ticked too. But, it's the past. We should learn from the past and make sure the same mistakes aren't made again.
I am with Lilie on this one...what's done is done.
I don't mind giving or helping people. I never expect anything in return if I "gift" anything.
I also don't like deception though...and agree with you that's where your hurt feelings are coming from?
I would probably be more 'modest' in giving to him in the future.

JMO.

Kat
12-10-2013 03:55 PM
WateryTart
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Originally Posted by Gretchen View Post
Thanks for everyone's input it helps. I have two weeks to drop the resentment (by Christmas). I thought I was over it until the thought of getting together for the holidays came and it doesn't help that I have to drive a junkie Honda for now.
OH HECK NO.

That's crap.
12-10-2013 03:48 PM
Gretchen Thanks for everyone's input it helps. I have two weeks to drop the resentment (by Christmas). I thought I was over it until the thought of getting together for the holidays came and it doesn't help that I have to drive a junkie Honda for now.
12-10-2013 02:37 PM
WateryTart I guess I think a person really only NEEDS one car. If they have extra money and can afford a separate car for fun, that's great, but I would never expect someone to provide either vehicle for me.

Before buying a car, I take into account what I need it to do and I purchase a vehicle that fits those priorities. First what I need, then what I want.

If your husband was fine with it, then that's that, but I would tend to think the son maybe isn't making the most mature decisions if he is choosing to use his car resources to buy what he wants and relying on his dad to give him what he needs.
12-10-2013 02:27 PM
MichaelE
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Originally Posted by Gretchen View Post
Thanks for the response MichaelE and Lilie.

MichaelE, I am a big fan of BMWs until they break down, I just dumped mine because the transmission was going.
So am I. I like the 6 series of the mid- to late 80's and early '90's. Also the M series coupes '95-'99.
12-10-2013 02:20 PM
Stevenzachsmom I agree with MichaelE. I don't know the circumstances of your step-son having and selling the BMW. It was nice that your husband gifted him the cars. I hope he was appreciative. It sounds like your husband noticed his son needed the cars and gave them willingly, rather than he was asked to provide the cars. From your description, the son is working hard and providing well for himself. Good for him. Gifts shouldn't have strings attached and shouldn't be given if they are going to cause hard feelings down the road. I would not want to see conflict between you, your husband and his son. Personally, I would just let it go.
12-10-2013 02:17 PM
Gretchen Thanks for the response MichaelE and Lilie.

MichaelE, I am a big fan of BMWs until they break down, I just dumped mine because the transmission was going.
12-10-2013 02:12 PM
Lilie I tend to think what is done is done. You can't take the car back. But you can think long and hard the next time ya'll want to provide any assistance to his son again.

FWIW - I would be ticked too. But, it's the past. We should learn from the past and make sure the same mistakes aren't made again.
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