|12-06-2013 12:20 AM|
|Saltshaker||Wow, I did not expect such a large response. This really is a wonderful forum and thank you to everyone for your kind words. Im clearly not ready for another GSD yet, still in tears reading some of your responses...not in a bad way, just that I guess that I was a bit caught off guard from my loss and it will just take time to get used to this. I suspect it will be months for me but I realize from what everyone has said here is that there is plenty more room to love another, its just a matter of me opening my heart again to another sweet baby that needs a home to be loved in. Lord knows there are plenty out there are in need of one.|
|12-05-2013 11:21 PM|
|12-05-2013 11:13 PM|
only you know when to get another dog. no one can tell you
when you should get another dog. when a dog dies and you get
another dog you're not replacing the dog that died you're getting
another dog. the other dog will be a part of you forever.
|12-05-2013 09:45 PM|
I had a GSD since the time I was around 10. I remember from the earliest age begging my parents for one. I must have asked every day for years (the neighbors across the street had one). Then one day my Dad & Mom said they were getting us one. I was estatic. I got to name him Baron. Of course Dad wound up takeing care of him. I went with Dad every week to obedience classes and watched. Daily walks when Dad took him. I got to walk Baron even though he was bigger then me while Dad made sure we were ok. I fed him every day. I loved every GSD I had very much. I always wanted another one right away one passed. I used to hear people say after a dog of theirs died they could never get another. I used to hear this and either think to myself or say the new GSD isn't in place of it's in addition to.....
After my Kaos died I finally realized how they could say that. If I had not gotten Havoc while Kaos was alive I doubt I would have gotten another. Or at least it would have been a while. Everyone says they have the best dog. Kaos was. He was just special I won't even try and list how many ways he was....It's weird because I used to feel guilty when I would think about the GSD's I had and think to myself Kaos was my favorite. Now I feel guilty because even though I give Havoc all the love and attention I gave Kaos or the others. He isn't Kaos. I'll be playing with him and wishing Kaos was with us. Or Kaos would have done this. I never did that with any other GSD even though I missed them. I tell myself at least Havoc came from some of the same bloodlines. My Kaos grandfather is Havoc's great grandfather (Kevin Vom Murrtal). I really think the problem is I had to put Kaos to sleep. If he died of natural causes/old age I would have felt a lot better and it kind of would be a celebration of his life every time I was with Havoc because they were with each other a few years not just a few months....
The only advice I can give is you will just know what to do. What's best for you. You just will. If you think you want another right now. Or think you want to wait. Whatever you will just know and it will be the right decision....
|12-05-2013 08:12 PM|
|gsdlover91||I had a puppy last year who died at barely four months old. I had only had her for about 2 months..I got another right away (I wasn't *completely* ready), only reason I went for it was cause the breeder offered me my choice of puppy as a replacement - in the end, I am glad I got another right away, he helped me heal, gave me reasons to get outside and walk him, stay in routine. He was silly, and and me laugh a lot.|
|12-05-2013 07:47 PM|
I went to do some "puppy therapy" at a local SPCA after my beloved dog died eleven years ago. When the little bitty pup was licking the tears from my face, I knew there would be another in my life--not that day, but some day. That pup and I curled up and took a nap together in the socialization room, and it was the most healing thing I did that week.
We took a few months before we started looking at rescues. I couldn't bear the silence in the house without the pitter-patter of dog feet. The emptiness was oppressive. Our home isn't complete without a dog in it--preferably more than one.
The love that came for the new dogs was different than the one that passed, but no less. I came to love them every bit as much as the one that passed.
I'm facing another one dying of cancer soon, and it's painful. That pain is the price of limitless love and joy for eleven years. As much as it hurts, it's so worth it.
|12-05-2013 07:18 PM|
|huntergreen||didn't read all the posts. imho, the time to get another gsd depends on you. varies from person to person. sometimes it takes time to get another dog, sometimes on a whim you go/research breeders and the right dog just pops up. i am sorry you lost your pal.|
|12-05-2013 06:17 PM|
|blueangele||I went about two months, I swore I wouldn't get another dog for years...then someone told me that getting another dog didn't mean I was done with grieving, it just meant that I was willing to open up and heart and home to another. I went the adoption route and although I 'like' my guy, I am not deeply bonded with him yet...he makes me so mad when he jumps on me, knocks my son over, steals food from my son, chases the cat, etc. I know most of it is because he is still in his 'puppy' stage. I am hoping we will bond soon. I am sure we will once he stops being an idiot LOL|
|12-05-2013 05:07 PM|
|12-05-2013 04:58 PM|
|pyratemom||I actually got one before the time because I didn't want to be without a dog and I wanted my old guy to have a friend to hang with through his last few years. It doesn't make it any easier because when you love them so much nothing can take their place. Pyrate will always have his place in my heart and I don't think any amount of time will change that. When you are ready, you will know in your heart. Some people are ready sooner than others, but don't try to replace your lost love. A new love with a new personality will bring you pleasure and at times you will see some of the GSD personality they all have that will remind you but remember it will be a different dog, never the same.|
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