|10-13-2013 07:40 PM|
If anything, we are kind of like Roman gods to them. Some of us are strong and powerful and even other gods can't hurt them if we are right there. Some are weak, but better than they are. Some of us come down and fight with our strong pups. We provide everything, they obey our commands, we reward or in some cases punish. There are good gods, and not so good gods. Some are angry and punishing, some are weak, some are good and just.
I am their Susie, not their momma.
This silly anthromorphising of dogs really doesn't respect them for the wonderful creature that they are.
|10-13-2013 07:19 PM|
|10-13-2013 06:48 PM|
|PhoenixGuardian||I was also going to suggest having your BF feed/walk the dog, but I can see that has already been suggested, so I second that idea.|
|10-13-2013 06:23 PM|
You are not the dog's mother, and the dog is intelligent enough to know that.
What you have is a dog that is NOT looking to you for leadership, but is choosing to make his own decisions, deciding who can sit where, who can get close to you.
This could be resource guarding, and the resource is you. And it can also be a dog that doesn't have enough confidence in you -- is not looking to you to determine who and what is ok.
I would read through NILIF -- Nothing In Life Is Free -- It is a good place to start for people who have leadership issues. I would also look into how to manage resource guarding.
I have always let dogs on the couch, but this dog is exhibiting a problem with that. I would probably stop allowing him up there. I would definitely get him into regular training classes, and build that bond. The bond is from you telling the dog what to do, dog does it, you praise. This inflates you as the leader, and your dog gets that reinforced all through training. And that builds.
You might want the BF to start doing walks with the dog, and feeding the dog.
|10-13-2013 06:01 PM|
we taught our dog "family hug". we hug and one of us says
"family hug" and our dog will come and sit between or walk back
and forth between us.
if you don't want your dog getting between you teach him
"no", "stay", "go to your bed", etc.
|10-13-2013 05:31 PM|
|David Taggart||It is OK, nothing to worry about. Don't push him away, you are his mother. What happens - it is natural for young males to compete for a leadership in their pack. Obviously, your boyfriend is not a member of the pack, probably, because he doesn't sleep in one bed with you every night and doesn't eat both, and morning, and evening meal every day. The pack sleep together and eat together. I suggest you to make holidays for yourself with the purpose of improving your relationship with your dog. And, hug more often!|
|10-13-2013 05:16 PM|
|Shade||I agree with Paul, start with NILIF and enforce rules consistently. My dogs earn privileges like sitting on the couch with me, if they misbehave they've lost that privilege and have to gain it back with good behaviour. It rarely takes one or two times before the dog realizes that certain behaviours get rewarded and they'll default to them.|
|10-13-2013 12:22 PM|
Do you practice NILIF training? If not, i'd start now and stick to it. Get him in a good obedience class too.
And stop allowing him on the couch if it's becoming as issue. From now on, the couch is off limits for dogs.
|10-13-2013 12:09 PM|
HELP!!! Jealous 5 month old
My boyfriend and I need some advice. Our male GSD is as sweet as can be, but lately he's been getting very jealous when my boyfriend and I hug. He will jump in between us and even begin to nip at us until we stop hugging. We've tried putting him into a sit/stay position, but he constantly breaks it. We can't show any affection towards each other because he has to be in between us. We can't even sit on the couch together because he has to be in the middle. It's annoying right now, but we're worried that it may become a more serious issue in the future. Any advice is much appreciated!!