|08-22-2013 07:42 PM|
|mebully21||i agree with what everyone says .. it took me 2 years to find the right match for my male who sounds like your dog lol.. 2 years of me dragging him to every puppy/adult/young dog to meet to see if he would get along with them.. once he met my gsd they clicked instantly.. take your time, grieve, then see where life takes you and Abby on the dog search.|
|08-21-2013 09:09 PM|
sorry for your loss. only you know if you should get another
dog and when. what did your trainer and behaviourist say about
getting a dog after their evaluation of Abbey? if i had a dog that
may have issues with another dog i wouldn't get another dog.
|08-21-2013 04:43 PM|
Thankyou so much for the responses. Keeta sounds like Abbey..so it makes me feel good that I'm not alone in all this. Oddly enough I had looked at rotties and rottie mixes..yours is adorable...so one day in sure I will come across a Gryff for her. Your both right..in taking it slow..but that its possible. Sometimes its just nice to know there are others that understand.
|08-21-2013 02:14 PM|
Abbey's Mom, get another dog when YOU are ready. I don't see how it will make a difference to Abby whether you get one now, or later. What will make a difference to both dogs is how comfortable you are in bringing another dog into the household - dogs are so sensitive to our energies, mental and physical, that if you get a dog sooner than you are ready, because other people advised you too, but then somewhat feel resentful, or overwhelmed, or still very emotional over your Bani.
When you get another dog, Abbey might accept a puppy better than an adult dog, or maybe an easy-going, non-dominant dog? I hesitated getting another dog with Keeta - she was terrible with other dogs, being a bully, going out of her way to harass other dogs, having no dog behaviour etiquette at all. There was the occasional dog she liked and got along with, so I was willing to try. I was clear whit the breeder when I got another dog that Keeta could be a problem, and I wanted a dog with a very easy-going, forgiving personality that would mesh with Keeta's insecurities, but with a lot of inner self-confidence so he would not negatively affected by her wanna-be-dominant bullying.
Turns out the Gryffon is exactly that, and Keeta and Gryff get along superb and are good buddies - never have an second of worry.
So all this to say, wait until YOU are ready, then take your time to find a dog that will mesh with Abby. Don't let anyone pressure you or guilt you into getting a dog before you feel it is time.
|08-21-2013 02:05 PM|
|Mary Beth||I am very sorry about Bani. Though I can understand why you would want to get a second dog because you are used to having two dogs, I would suggest waiting and give yourself time to adjust to having just a single dog. Abby does have issues and those issues may still be present if you get a second dog, even though the dog is large.|
|08-21-2013 01:11 PM|
Future Plans..Advice Please....
Not knowing where to begin, i will start off by stating the inevitable...if any of you responding knows me, you also know besides Abbey i had a 13-14 year old adopted Eskie whom i wrote on here about plenty of times because there were issues as far as the 2 of them getting along etc. Unfortunately at the end of July i had to put Bani down, it has taken me this long to ask the questions im about to ask, because im dealing with it better now. Long story short after 300.00 of bloodwork and trips to the Vet, he started eating odd things he shouldn't be eating, and was a path of self destruction with blockages etc..he was getting sick, black bloody poop, the whole 9 yards...i thought he was getting better with meds and special food, but then he tried eating a Duraflame Log which i saw with my own 2 eyes...i knew he was literally losing his mind...Vet said he did not have a test for Dimentia, but thats what it sounded like..SOOOO, we made the decision, he was surrounded by the family that loved him for 8 years, and as we held him drifted off into a peaceful sleep...i had him cremated, and now sits on top of Brandy my last GSD who passed.
ANYWAY, sorry so wordy....but because there were some issues with Abbey and Bani, and after speaking to a trainer and a behaviorist...if i ever wanted to get another dog can there be peace with Abbey or was she meant to be a single dog? Both people said if i was going to get another dog to do it soon, if she is on her own too long it may not work out?.....but im not quite ready for that yet, and Abbey is choosy who she likes, they said select an older dog that is calmer, not an energetic young dog, but the type that she will pick up off this calm docile vibe...crazy little dogs drive her nuts...but if she sees a lab playing in the water, she is fine...weird, she is quirky.....anyway, anyone else in this position, and besides an older GSD obviously, any other gentle breeds that can be recommended that are gentle and calm in nature... that she may get along with...
im obviously keeping up with socializing and walks, plenty of exercise and she is so much better, but being young maybe a little maturity too... i would just hope someday she could live in peace with a friend.