|08-22-2013 01:48 PM|
And no, not every parent runs to the teacher and blames them, but there are more than you think. They think their child does no wrong. Talk to a couple teachers in your school... you'ld be surprised.
Ok, here's an example. There was an article last year or the year before about a bus driver who stopped the bus, got up and yelled/screamed at a bunch of teens because of how they were acting on the bus. The kids went home, told their parents... parents called the school. Somehow this made the news. Probably because it was caught on video. The readers' comments were outrageous... fire the bus driver, he needs to be charged, etc etc. Now me? I say Go, Bus Driver, go! Put those bratty kids in their place, but no... thats the parents place to discipline kids, not the bus driver.
|08-22-2013 01:14 PM|
I don't care about the thread being hijacked at all. I got my answers, and that's good enough.
It is funny though when you think that the present generation of parents were raised by the older generation of parents?
What you mentioned that happens in all schools, does not happen in our school here. Perhaps there are parents who argue about a teacher's competency and legitimately in some cases, I might add. But I cannot think of a single instance when my kids got away with not doing their homework. Or that I bothered to argue with a teacher for a better grade. I don't really know how many parents do, but since I am an average person, I would say most average people do not. If you don't like your kid's grade, you go over the subject with them, if they had trouble understanding, you work with them on it, if they were just plain lazy, I need to see extra work on that subject every day. If the teacher was unfair and took off more points than allowed on a project than what her rubric said, I tell them it is not important, it is the work they put in that is important, and they will see the payoff in future in their own lives. The teachers, to me, are just there to plan out the school year, pace the studies, and hand out the notes, and classroom activities. It really is up to my kids to study and make sure they have covered the material, and find some one thing interesting enough in the chapter that they do extra reading on the net on it.
As for teachers, I have only met two in my life that inspired me. Thankfully they were my math and physics teacher, and strangely enough a history teacher who brought so much life to an otherwise boring subject by bringing much to the subject including politics, psychology, and philosophy that I still have an interest in all of them. As for the math and science, I am an Engineer.
BTW, I am curious, kittilicious. What do your kids do? They must be still in high school? Do they find it hard being in a classroom with the environment like you mentioned?
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I would like to discuss this further, but do not want to hijack this thread.
|08-22-2013 10:12 AM|
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|08-22-2013 10:04 AM|
Even the teacher that I had twentycoughcough years ago who had respect from every single student in school retired because he had no control, it made him sad how the teenagers took over the school. And I'm not in a big city... small cornfield USA... its like this in all the schools.
I am really seeing this in dog ownership too. Have you met the dog owners who don't think it's healthy for them to raise their voice at their dog? You should always talk in a calm, happy voice, never allow your voice to show disappointment or anger? (there's another example of the new-age parenting) My vet and I have talked about it, she said it's a new fad, but then the dogs come to her with behavior problems and the owners can't figure out why.
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|08-22-2013 01:35 AM|
To the OP.
Solid obedience will help you avoid situations that make you uncomfortable. If you had good recall and a solid out trained, you could have called the dog to you and told it to out the toy.
Had the dog not known these commands, I would have given a stern verbal correction, reached down and took the toy and walked away. That's my toy.
As some others have stated, there is a huge gray area between strictly positive and yank and crank. I wouldn't hang a puppy for this at all. I like some possessiveness for what I do. I would make it clear, without inducing a bunch of conflict, that it's up to me when you get your toy.
If I reached for the toy and the dog bit me, or tried, I would physically correct the dog and build a plan to counter-condition the dog. A 6 month old with only a couple of instances of possessiveness is nothing to get all worried about, but you have to deal with it when it comes up, or you are rewarding the behavior. He wins, so he will do it again, and just may up his game next time.
About the hotdog. I'm my opinion, you made a mistake. The hotdog wasn't dangerous, so it wasn't worth the conflict to pry it out of his mouth. That is going to bolster his possessiveness.
I would start training the out today, with a tug, in a motivational way. His reward would be another game of tug. Have a plan, whatever you deem appropriate, ready for next time.
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