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03-25-2014 08:50 PM
Originally Posted by Sam_the_man View Post
He looks to me for guidance at times when he has to make decision (when that happens he gets praise)
Well that is the goal!

Originally Posted by Sam_the_man View Post
I'm not sure whether I'm being nitpicky or I have a actual concern. I think as time passes I'll begin to appreciate the little things more and we can build on them.
Yes, yes you are!
03-25-2014 08:45 PM
Sam_the_man Mego,
I see exactly what ur saying about the different displays of attachment. He shares with me and vice Versa but because I rewarded when taking things away as a puppy. He's an awesome dog it's just that the attachment is not prototypical. He looks to me for guidance at times when he has to make decision (when that happens he gets praise)

I'm not sure whether I'm being nitpicky or I have a actual concern. I think as time passes I'll begin to appreciate the little things more and we can build on them.
03-25-2014 08:17 PM
mego First, gorgeous dog.

Second, my dog is kind of like yours, but it's her personality. She's been super independent since the day she came home, acts like a queen, she tries to decide when she wants to do things so training her was a real challenge early on. We figured it out

However, I wouldn't say she and I don't have a really strong bond - she just expresses it differently. She's not a huge cuddler, but she does like to be in the same room. She used to not recall to me and as a puppy she was not velcro, she was out in the grass sniffing and romping... but as I have been told by other people, if I am actually not around she cries a bit and spends so much time looking for me, checking all the doors for me, etc.

Is there a chance your dog is just 'different' about how he bonds to you? maybe you just don't see it? If he doesn't recall he might just be content enough with you in the vicinity or have good nerves where he doesn't feel so sticky to you.

All I would say is try to find little things that shows he cares, do fun things together, find an activity you both enjoy. I talk to my dog a lot, I share my food with her and she would share with me if I wanted her nasty stuff WE're both pretty independent but at the end of the day I know she cares a lot.
03-25-2014 08:07 PM
Sam_the_man Thanks for the feedback. I definately have a lot of things to work on. As far as the socialization it was all done at his pace nothing demanding. He was happy and enjoying just about every encounter, it's hard for me to see how that could be a bad thing.

I do really hope it something we can strengthen our bond because a big part of owning a GSD is the amazing bond. I appreciate the posts that mentioned how they've had similar experiences, that helps reassure me that my dog and I arnt some crazy outlier.

Thanks again, and I'll keep you guys posted about our progress.
03-25-2014 01:39 PM
Chip18 Dogs love hand signals also.
03-25-2014 12:55 PM
Stosh Leerburg has a dvd called "Relationship Games for You and Your Dog". Several fun games that build a strong bond. I agree, you probably have a stronger one than you think. Try hiding from him when you're outside and see if he looks for you. Agility or other activity would help too. Out last gsd was very similar- she was a great protector of the house and property but didn't enjoy lots of petting or affection. She usually laid about 10 feet away from us- close enough that she could protect us but out of our reach.
03-25-2014 12:16 PM
Blanketback Some use "Here" but if you're already using "Heel" then I wouldn't since they sound alike with the long 'e' in them. It can be anything you want, really. I used "vite" in puppy class, for my 'emergency recall' word, because it means "fast" in French. Lol, get here now!
03-25-2014 12:11 PM
SummerGSDLover What would be a good word to use in lieu of "come" if one set about retraining the command? I'm kind of having this same problem so I'm using the word "Front" and hopefully it will not just be "I'm going to come within ten feet of you," it'll be "I'm sitting right in front of you and looking into your eyes after being thirty feet away."

03-25-2014 11:44 AM
Blanketback It sounds like you need to work on recall, and I'm wondering if somehow you've made the "Come" command ineffective - like by repeating the word, or ignoring disobedience? If so, you'd want to retrain this command using another word, starting fresh. I don't think this is a reflection on your bond, because it might just be a simple thing like you've called your dog off a chase without teaching "Leave it" first and the dog will blow you off for something more exciting at the time. Or you've called your dog to clip his nails, lol... it could be because of many reasons.
03-25-2014 10:56 AM
Lilie I think gsdar and Castlemaid are spot on.

I also think there is a greater bond with your dog than you realize. Your dog is just aloof and isn't the huggy, waggly butt kind of dog.

I think if you were to join a class of sometype - OB, Agility etc. you'll be suprised as just how 'into' you your dog really is.
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