|10-13-2013 07:40 AM|
find a trainer. if your dog is truly shy don't push him on people.
protect your dog.
|10-13-2013 07:30 AM|
My 11 month old APBT mix is the same way, she was abused and not socialized til I got her at 14 weeks. She used to lay on the floor, tremble and drool when people came into the room. We did the same thing someone suggested, we had our guest hold treats until Xena approached them, then they would gently and slowly toss the treat to her. It has taken a LONG time she is still very skittish but she is much better.
If your boy hides behind or on you I wouldn't let him. I had to move away from Xena when she did that and as hard as it was it helped. When she meets people on the street and they want to pet I tell them she is very shy and ask them to slowly reach out, palm up and let her go to them. When she goes up to sniff she gets a treat from me or the person. She is head shy so when she will allow them to pet her I ask that they pet her on the back of the neck and shoulders, where she really likes it and is most comfortable with. Good luck to you it is a long, slow process that can't be rushed.
|10-12-2013 09:31 PM|
|kjdreyer||I have an 11 month old female I got when she was 9 weeks old too, and she has the exact same reaction to most people approaching her - nothing negative beyond avoidance, just not interested in making contact. I was a little worried too, because I didn't want her to develop any fear and/or fear aggression with people, but I've seen absolutely no sign of fear. I've decided I like her just the way she is! She isn't an attention monger or a pest to other people. We had Labs and Brittanys growing up, so I was used to dogs that approached and wanted to be best friends with everybody, so it took a little getting used to her aloofness. I also had to just tell people that wanted to get in her face that she's more of a one person dog and likes her space. She's a total sweetie to friends and family, so I am just really pleased with how she's turning out! It sounds to me like your dog is just fine!|
|10-12-2013 09:05 PM|
|Laura Hazelwood||Thank you. Your advice has been helpful|
|10-12-2013 09:11 AM|
Generally it is better to have a stranger let the dog know through scent that they have a treat but hold of in giving it until the dog is totally at ease in their presence. This may take a few meetings. If the person doesn't have this skill then better to leave it.
The problem is the people are needy as is the owner in this situation. They want the dog to play the role they associate with happy go lucky dog, but the dog has a more aloof temperament and will only adapt when the pressure and expectation is taken off. Some dogs don't want to be center of attention.
|10-12-2013 09:04 AM|
It is simply that people are approaching him in a wrong way and you are encouraging them to do so. A person staring into a dogs eyes and going to rub it's head and talking baby to it is a no no for a lot of dogs. The dog would prefer to be left alone. If a person walks with you and enters your home and relaxes the dog will probably go to it as the person as it trusts them. It basically has learned to trust this person.
Your dog doesn't sound like it has weak nerves but that it is just a bit shy. I think that is a good thing. As it matures it will probably allow more interaction with total strangers but for now it is learning about the world and people and would prefer to play it safe.
What i would tell people is the dog will go to you when it is ready instead of having uncertainty and weird energy of a person half going to run the dog and the dog shying away from that. You are the dogs leader so you hold him firm and speak with the people and let him feed of your powerful energy and he'll grow up more confident.
|10-12-2013 08:49 AM|
probably, BUT, he's still young and they can go thru funky stages.
I would just continue doing what your doing, because he doesn't sound "bad" to me at all.
Maybe give strangers treats and have them TOSS them to him without making direct contact, let him initiate 'meeting' them..Food can be a good motivator
Again, keep taking him everywhere and anywhere, and just go with the flow,,don't coddle him or force him to meet people. As he matures he will gain more confidence and hopefuly be a little more 'social'.
My female is social at home, out in public, she could care less about people..She would rather just "be" , not pet, not talked to, just 'be'..So I tell people she is not a social butterfly and when they ask to pet her, I say thank you for asking, but she prefers you just ignore her..
|10-11-2013 11:52 PM|
|Laura Hazelwood||Thanks for your reply. He has never growled or showed any signs of aggression towards dogs or people I have introduced him to. He just backs away from someone unfamiliar who may talk directly to him or that put their hand out, or he tries to get against me. I have gotten unwanted advice from strangers on the importance of socializing or parents that tell their kids to back away from him after asking to pet him because of his behavior. (I do tell them prior he is friendly just a little shy) I understand what you are saying and agree but at his age should he be more tolerable of strangers or children approaching him?|
|10-11-2013 06:12 PM|
The standard for gsd's call for "aloof",,and while yours may be 'shy', he may just be "aloof" and your thinking he is shy?
How does he act if someone comes up to him? Is he cowering in fear? Hiding behind you? Tries to bite them? Growling?
That^^ is fear..
Aloof is, tolerance but could give a poop about anyone..Not slobbering all over people, again, tolerant, but just not interested..
if it's aloofness, he's correct They aren't supposed to be social butterflies but should be tolerant and they aren't golden retreivers
|10-11-2013 05:15 PM|
Advice on my boys shy behavior.
I have an 11 month old male gsd that I've had since he was about 9 weeks. My concern is how he shys away from strangers (adults and children). I thought it was something he would grow out of over time but he hasn't yet. I know it is a characteristic of an unsocialized dog but I don't know how that is possible with Kody. Since I first got him I have taken him on hundreds of car rides, to dog friendly retail stores, friends houses, camp grounds, public parks, and dog parks and even festival events with crowds of people. Lets just say I take my dog more places with me than anyone else I know and I don't understand why he isn't more social. Not to mention all the friends that come over and he warms up to and he greets them with kisses the next time. I decided when I got him I would train him myself and so far it has worked out, he knows several commands and I always get compliments on how well behaved he is... but this shyness and having zero interest in getting attention from a stranger is killing me. I want others to see him for the big friendly boy he is and not the dog that looks like he has been abused. More importantly I don't want my dog ever feeling scared/uncomfortable if I can help it. Should I be worried? Should I seek professional help from a trainer or is their things I can try differently? Suggestions please.