|09-25-2013 03:31 PM|
Seriously, if I had a dollar for every time I have said, "I promise you the dog will not eat your cat," I would have the purchase price banked already!
|09-25-2013 03:29 PM|
|WendyM||Keep in mind I have a very high energy/high drive dog, so my experience might be a lot different from yours. We are going to dinner with friends on Friday, but ONLY because I'm off work and the puppy will only be in her crate a few hours during the day, at most. In that case, I don't feel as bad crating her for an extra hour or two in the evening. And if you have a shorter commute, you may still be able to do dinners out. But I feel like I made the decision to get her, she didn't make the decision to get me. So if she's been in a crate all day, I don't want to put her in a crate again at night (before bed time, that is) just so I can go out. Once in a while would probably be fine. But not on a regular basis. When she's matured some, and can be trusted out in the house alone, I'm sure I'll feel differently. At least I hope I will. I miss going out with my husband and talking about something OTHER than the dog!|
|09-25-2013 03:24 PM|
|09-25-2013 03:19 PM|
Holy cow. Thank you, Wendy! That gives me a good idea of the kinds of things I'll want to do. I was planning on exercise/play/training time in the evenings, and puppy classes as soon as she's old enough, but the fact that you don't feel you have time to go out for dinner would give my husband pause.
My husband has made it clear this is my dog, my show. Not that he wouldn't hang out with me while I exercise or play with it, but I'd be on the hook to adjust my work schedule as needed for the most part.
It sounds like you do a LOT, and it's something to consider. Because my husband feels VERY strongly about only bringing in a puppy - he said he'd be cool with having a dog if and only if it came in at 8-10 weeks - either I'll do that or not get the dog, depending on what I decide
|09-25-2013 03:04 PM|
5:45 am - let puppy out to go to the bathroom, bark at neighbor's dog, lay down and not want to move
6:00 am - walk puppy for 20 minutes
6:20 am - try to make lunch for work while puppy follows us around adorably
6:30 am - I leave and my husband feeds the puppy
6:40 am - puppy in crate while my husband showers and gets dressed
7:00 am - husband lets puppy out and plays around - indoor fetch, mental games, whatever
7:30 am - back out to bathroom and then back in crate
12:00 pm - I get home and let the puppy out, then feed her
12:10 pm - walk puppy for 20 minutes
12:30 pm - handling check (can I see your ears? ohhhh, such pretty ears)
12:35 pm - play "find your duck"
12:45 pm - back outside for light tug (mostly just carrying a tug rope in her mouth because she's teething) and bathroom
12:55 pm - back in crate
5:45 pm - husband lets puppy out and they play games like "bring your tube to the mat", "soccer fetch", etc (we're great at naming games, as you can tell). also some basic obedience/mental work.
6:30 pm - feed the puppy
6:45 pm - run errands with the puppy - petco and kohl's.
7:15 pm - walk the puppy around a major shopping complex to meet people and work on anxiety when my husband and I separate while out in public
7:45 pm - stop to get dinner at chipotle, since the concept of cooking has gone out of the window for the foreseeable future. Husband walks her around while I go in and order
8:15 pm - come home and we eat. give puppy a bully stick and settle her on a bed at our feet. watch some tv while she's occupied.
9:30 pm - put puppy to bed. Take shower, do dishes, etc.
That's our day every single day. What we do at night differs - sometimes we have basic training class, sometimes we go to a park, sometimes we go out to meet new people - but our focus is her all night every night. Anything we do for ourselves, like shower, happens after she's in bed for the night. Even the hour of TV we watched last night is an anomaly, but we're trying to get her to understand settling down near us, and that the bed is hers and she gets very good things when she settles down there (she sleeps in a crate, but we ultimately want to to transition to the bed). The weekends are easier, but they're our opportunity to get her longer stretches of exercise while the sun's out, so we'll go for a hike or for longer sessions at a park, and the break we get is when she naps in the afternoon.
Is it unfair to the dog? I don't know. She'd probably be happier with people who could spend more time with her, but we try to maximize the time we do have. We didn't understand the time commitment we were making when we got her. I mean, we understood it conceptually. But we didn't understand how completely every other thing in our lives would become subordinate to taking care of her. As she gets older, hopefully some of her extreme energy will mellow out, and we'll have a calmer puppy, though I'm sure she'll always be energetic. I think a lot of depends on the energy and drive of the puppy you end up with. But you need to be prepared that it will be consuming. The good news is that you're a couple, so you can trade off. One of you can take the dog for a walk, or a car ride, while the other has some time to do something exciting like take out the trash. So in short (too late, I know), I think it's certainly doable. But it's a huge adjustment. For example, we never go out with friends (or each other) in the evening anymore unless we take her. It's not fair to her to leave her in a crate all day, and then let her out for half an hour only to go back in again because we want to go to dinner. We have frequently looked at each other and asked ourselves why we intentionally did this to our lives. But we did it because we wanted her, and because we love her, and because one day all of this chaos will pay off with a great dog, instead of a handful of a puppy. Good luck!
|09-25-2013 02:56 PM|
Hi, I too have a cat and have never had any issues between my dogs and him. When I first brought my Husky home 9 years ago everyone told me that he would kill my cat (even my vet) and that husky's are known cat killers. I never had any issues between the two, in fact my husky would often snuggle up at night with the cat and sleep. I also rescued a small terrier from a local shelter and she too has had no issues with the cat.
With my Husky I made sure he spent a lot of time around the cat while he was a puppy and corrected him if he got to rough with him. With my rescue I did the same even though she was 2 years old when I adopted her. Occasionally she will chase the cat around the house but has never been aggressive with him, and she too will snuggle up with the cat and sleep.
I now have another German Shepherd puppy (14 weeks) and have been working with him as well. They learn quick and can be taught very easy that the cat is not a toy. My GSD will sometimes bark at the cat but has not been aggressive with him yet.
I am also in a two career family and it is totally do-able. Both me and my wife work day shift. I do have a family member that lives a few houses down from me which does make it easier. He takes the pup out halfway through the day and usually will take him for a walk. Can't leave a puppy in a crate for a whole day you will need to come home on break or have someone take him out midday.
If you go the rescue route you can often find a nicely trained GSD at a breed specific shelter that already has experience with cats. Will also most likely be house trained and can go longer without being let out.
Good luck in your search! Praying you find your dream pup
|09-25-2013 02:49 PM|
|09-25-2013 02:34 PM|
|WVGSD||If you went to a GSD rescue group and got an adult dog that had been in foster care in a member's home following their rescue, you would also have the possibility of a great dog that can peacefully coexist with cats and without all of the puppy issues. Having been in foster care, the dog will nearly always be housetrained, crate trained, spayed or neutered, fully vetted and you will know about how they exist with cats and kids. Just a thought.|
|09-25-2013 02:09 PM|
Honestly, I'm very surprised nobody is telling me this is a bad idea.
A friend told me that I'm being inherently unfair to a dog by bringing it into a two career home. My husband's family has told him they think it's a terrible idea for the same reason.
I'm more of the opinion that it will not be easy and I'll have multiple times along the way at which I'll be ready to tear my hair out, but that it can be done.
|09-25-2013 02:04 PM|
We were/are in exactly the same position regarding the reason for getting a puppy v. an older dog - the safety of our 3 cats. I'm not saying it's been easy in our house, but getting better. Indie is 6 1/2 months old now; she's never shown any aggression toward the cats. She wants to play with them and lick them - but she's so much bigger - it puts them on the defense or they run and the chase would begin. I have followed advice given by other members (safe area for cats, redirection, keeping her on a leash, making myself more interesting with treats). She now mostly ignores two of the cats, but the third is another story. Then I started watching them.... that cat taunts her. Then runs. I have been slowly having more success with calling her off the chase - so it looks like we are on our way. I have been scolding that cat as well. He's sneaky. Good luck.
As far as working - she's crates all day from when I leave for work at 7:45 until 3:30 when the kids get home. She has the tv and a kong. Like all the other critters in the house, she probably sleeps all day. She's been fine except for the fact that she's getting too big for her crate (her ears stick out of the top when she's sitting or standing). She will be moving to a kennel we have in the basement soon - along with her tv.
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