|09-15-2013 09:03 PM|
I would advice you to wait. I am so stressed right now.
I have spent well about $3000 on my dog and i've only had her for 5 months. I am so tired and i am so stressed out with all of her behavioral and medical issues. That were NOT expected..
When i got Zelda when she was 4.5 months, i expected some socializing with people, basic dog socializing, spay/gastropexy, vaccines and normal medical procedures when i first met her.
I got way more than that, and am very poor, and am very very very stressed out and way in over my head and am unsure of my future.
I only have 1 year of college under my belt, and am not seeing college in my future for another couple years..
Please wait and finish college. It is best for you and your future dog.
However, getting a dog can be possible, i think it is just way harder, especially when you get a dog that has bad breeding. (Zelda being a byb special, she has many problems, i am glad that i got her away from her previous home that had gotten her from the byb)
I love Zelda very much, but i am at the end of my rope! And hoping that i can climb back up before i fall off, so to say.
|09-15-2013 08:49 PM|
|readaboutdogs||Speaking from experience on the mom side of the coin, the dog could very well end up being mom's! Clipper was originally my daughters dog, she left him with me and his litter mate Cody when she moved out of state. He was a little over one years. When she was going to come back to get him, a year or so later, i loved him so much, Cody and him loved each other, I too have a larger home and large fenced yard, they were moving into an apartment, well, clipper stayed with me! I now have my son's dog, it was to be temporary, but life carried him to new job, moving out of state, first baby! You never know what turns or pot holes are in the road ahead! Your mom sounds kinda like me, I'd never would have turned either away, I loved and love them both. Good luck in all you do, and be sure and let your mom know how much you appreciate her!|
|09-15-2013 07:56 PM|
Personally I'd suggest waiting just because you haven't started college yet so you won't really know for sure what your schedule/free time will be like yet so I think it's best to wait until you're settled in and you know those things and also have a place to live that you know will allow a GSD.
I got my first dog when I was 16, and my second dog 6 months later, but they were both stray rescues, not planned purchases. So I had two dogs when I started college. This worked out perfectly for me since my college was very close so I had no problems with having enough time, space, etc for my dogs. My school's a "commuter campus" which means no dorms, not a "party school", not a lot of extra-curricular stuff going on and I have never been the type to be into that type of thing anyway. I spent most of my free time with my dogs. My idea of fun is going to a dog/pet show, doing dog sports or dog training classes, going to a dog-friendly event, etc...so it was perfect. Granted sometimes money was tight, when both my dogs were seniors and had multiple serious health issues, surgeries, cancer etc back to back I ended up having to borrow money for some of the vet care as it went far into the thousands but I worked it out. I then got my GSD when I was finishing up undergrad and entering grad school.
|09-14-2013 12:33 AM|
As for when the dogs would get adopted, I always wrote a letter 'from them' addressed to their adopters regarding the dog's habits, schedule, favorite toys, training, and personality. For me personally, this helped me ease the sadness of the pups leaving because I knew I had prepared both dog and new owner to the best of my ability. Fostering isn't for everyone, but looking back I think it was the best thing I could have done at the time.
|09-13-2013 10:31 PM|
|09-13-2013 09:47 PM|
I had dogs in college that I got while I was in college. I fought for two years to get out of the dorm; did RA work till I had enough money, then I worked a job and went to school so I could live off-campus. My parents didn't offer me sanctuary for my dog(s) while I was away. I was fine with it, and just let them know that they were welcome to come visit me for Christmas. Worth it? ABSOLUTELY. Did I miss out on some parties because I was home with a diarrhea-spouting dog sometimes? Yep. Did I tear my hair out after a few consecutive 24 hour days between my job, finals homework, and still getting the dogs out to the park? Yep. Would I do it again? YES.
If you can do it, do it. If you doubt your ability, don't.
|09-13-2013 09:14 PM|
I haven't read all the replies, so this point may already have been made, but... how committed are you to this dog? If your landlord says to you "either get rid of the dog or move out", what will you do?
The first thing I did when I moved out of my parent's house at age 18 was get a dog. I'd wanted a GSD for years, and my parents never let me have one. It was an impulse buy from a BYB, and I was living in an apartment that didn't allow dogs. I found a rental that did allow dogs, moved there, lived there until the landlord told me to get rid of the dog or move out, I moved out, was homeless for about a year because I couldn't find a place that would accept my dog. It never occurred to me to give up my dog--it would have been like asking me to give up my child. I would have rather lived in a broken-down van for a year than live in an apartment without my dog!
Despite this, for me, having a dog in my college years was great. It wasn't an easy life, but that dog went everywhere with me, and I do mean everywhere--even to my college classes. We were like a unit. I was alone a good part of the time I had her, and because of her, I felt safe walking across campus and back home at night. When I had no money, she was fed first. I always made sure she was comfortable wherever we went, and that she was welcome everywhere we went. Since we were together 24/7, that dog was trained to such a degree that I think she understood English.
Anyway, the point of that whole ramble is that if you are really committed to a partnership with the animal, having a dog during your college years can be a really rewarding relationship. Even though having a dog made my life hard at times, I wouldn't change that experience for the world. I learned so much from that dog.
If you're not 100% committed to the dog, you may resent the fact that the dog can make your life hard. Or when faced with a decision like "Get rid of the dog or move out", you may decide to get rid of the dog. Which seems like a sane thing to consider if you are about to become homeless. But things like this are exactly the reason that dogs wind up in shelters and rescue, so if you don't want to risk being part of that statistic, you might want to consider waiting until you're more settled to get a dog.
I know you said that you could just leave the dog with your parents if things get rough for you, but to me, that is cheating. Yes, it's better than dumping your dog in a shelter. But my point is, part of what's great about a relationship with your dog is the degree of commitment you have to each other. Most people do not have the degree of commitment that I did when I was in college, and I wouldn't call them wrong. In many ways it would have been "smarter" for me to wait until I was settled to get a dog. But that would have meant going without a dog for another 8 years or so!
|09-13-2013 09:04 PM|
At least if you struggle with a dog that is yours than you reap the benefits...? IMO obviously
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|09-13-2013 08:34 PM|
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