|09-10-2013 05:32 PM|
Your suggestions have been helpful! I spent the whole weekend with the dog, mainly just her and I. I was able to even take her for a walk and she minded well. Yesterday when I came in, she barked at me and her fur stood up, but then she grabbed her toy and wagged her tail, so that's a good sign - I followed up with a nice walk with her and a treat. I still haven't attempted to enter the house when no one else is home, so I'm not sure how she will feel then. We're getting there and all signs point us having a positive, loving relationship with one another.
|09-06-2013 02:55 PM|
|Blanketback||You could also do something to let the dog know that it's you that's coming to the door. I have my keys on a caribiner, so all the jangling announces me from quite a distance away. This had one of my friends POed, because his dog never barked to alert when I was at the door, even though my friend expected it, lol. But the dog knew it was me because of all the noise I made.|
|09-06-2013 02:47 PM|
I would try to not look at the dog or talk to it or try to touch it for a few minutes. Walk in, slowly but purposefully and get your self a drink or change your shoes or whatever. Act like you are in your own world and that doesn't include the dog. The dog will get the message.
If the dog is barking with your noise opening the door then just open the door a little and let the dog get your scent. Once it realizes it's you it should relax. Might take a little time. Open the door more walk in.
BY doing this the dog will not associate your entrance with any excitement and will see your entering the room as relaxation.
Also when you arrive do the same ritual, as above with whatever suits you. When the dog is comfortable, go out again and repeat the process. Walk in the dogs relaxes, walk out and repeat a few times.
The dog should start to expect you and remain calm.
Make sure your future interactions are on your terms. It comes down to your energy, your knowledge of dog behavior and the temperament of the dog. Is fear of a dog rational? Is fear of dog gonna increase chances of bite from dog? You have to try to develop a healthy respect between your self and dogs. They can bite, but your behavior is very influential in the process and you can avoid a bite or tension by knowing how to show you are no treat to a dog.
The more you learn about dog behavior the more you loose the irrational fear of dogs. Then you realize you are stronger then the dog and simple body language does communicate this to the dog. When you encounter a dog if you look at it you are challenging it. If you ignore it and look to the side you are saying there is no challenge. The dog can view you and realizes that is a big predator, it can walk to you and smell you and you won't flinch. You reinforce the fact that you are not a threat and the dog trusts you and accepts you. It respects you and you show it, you respect it. Hope that makes sense, hard to explain.
|09-06-2013 02:40 PM|
Like I said, she's been gone for a month so I haven't had much time to spend with her, though that is the route I'm taking this evening when I get home. I think I'll have my room mate sit in the living room (where the door is) and I'll just come in with a treat in hand.
|09-06-2013 02:38 PM|
Thanks for the advice! I haven't really had a chance to spend much time with the dog, as she's been gone for a month since I moved in. I give her treats often and always make her sit before I give them to her. I don't think I could just walk in, even with heavy clothes on. I understand she sense my fear and intimidation and I'm not really sure how to over come that (obviously "face your fears" but easier said than done). My room mate suggested taking her for a walk and I thought this evening I would do so, play with her etc. I'm hoping it will only take a couple days for her to get used to me coming in and out of the house and will at least tolerate letting me in. The barking doesn't bother me, the stance does.
|09-06-2013 02:36 PM|
|LoveEcho||I know it's hard not to be nervous Have you tried coming in with treats (with your roommate supervising)?|
|09-06-2013 02:27 PM|
You have to stop being nervous, she knows she can intimidate you and she will. What I had my friend that was going to pet sit do was wear thick heavy clothing and my leather work gloves. I told her walk in like you own the place do not look or speak to my dogs walk to the cabinet and tell them to sit and give them a cookie. She did most of what I told her and didn't have a problem.
Can you do some fun stuff with her? Walks, play or some favorite treats.
|09-06-2013 02:09 PM|
How do I get in the house, with my room mates dog?
I've never had a German shepherd before and was minorly attacked as a child. I've had a general fear since then towards them, though I try to treat each dog I meet as individual and not generalize. I've always had a dog and love them to pieces. Still however, old scars take a long time to heal. I recently moved into an apartment with a girl who has a German Shepherd. She's the sweetest dog and has no problem with letting me pet her, rub her belly, give her treats, etc. I can walk right up to her alone or otherwise and am greeted with tail wags. She even gets jealous when I pet the cat and don't pay attention to her. That being said, she's somewhat aggressive when I try to enter the house on my own accord. She hasn't lunged at me, but will get in an aggressive stance, ears back, tail down and snarling. I close the door and wait for her human to open the door and of course the dog is then fine and ready for love.
I understand it's a bit of a learning curve, as she learns that I'm new but I'm okay to come inside too. The dog has been gone for a month and returned last night. I came home and she had been in my room mates room. When she let her out, she barked at me, but was wagging her tail and came right up to say hello and everything was fine. My fear is that we are back at square one, though now that I've lived in the house for some time, I'm more settled and my scent is around the house. I figured before I opened the door, I would say some things to her, so she can hear it's me. I spend a lot of time talking to her, petting her, etc. I also thought I would I have a treat ready as soon as I opened the door as positive reinforcement - kind of like "cool aunt".
I'm still nervous, however and am wondering what else I can do to gain her trust so that she understands it's okay for me to enter the house alone.