|12-14-2012 11:01 PM|
|12-14-2012 09:34 PM|
I guess I haven't mentioned much of this anywhere, but there is a Mr. Dotty here He walks Ellie and trains her, he is the one that is in charge of her, and I walk train Izzy. I am home with the two of them during the day.
They never ever go for walks together, even if I have one and he has the other.
I used to try and walk them together, training as a pair, but when we ran into two reactive pit bulls on a busy street at rush hour, I could not hold them back, had no control, it was a close call.
They are pretty good in the house. If they are up to something, we don't like, I just say "Bucket!" and stop in their tracks, look at me and zoom into their kennels, lay down and look out at me. It isn't like we have no control over them, we do. We also can say "Enough!" they stop and run into their kennels lol Even if I say "Izzy, bucket!" they both go.
We have to be very strict about kennel time as we have parrots and we would never risk the birds getting hurt.
They know which lines they can cross and which ones they can't. I see now, I need more lines drawn though.
|12-14-2012 09:01 PM|
With the information you have provided,if you can't manage the two of them in a safe way then I think rehoming one would be better for all involved.
|12-14-2012 08:58 PM|
Why I asked about the daughter was that people were saying that she should employ tough love and make the daughter take on the pets. Generally parents in a situation have a better handle than we do who have just read a thread. Also, buying the puppy for the daughter, does make it more understandable why the parent feels responsible for the puppy.
But I agree, why the daughter's home is not necessarily the best place for the puppy isn't important. You are in a rough spot right now with more puppy than most people like to manage.
This is really a tough situation because it is just not a matter of rehoming one of them, not just a matter of sending one to the daughter. They are spayed and two females can live together in the right situation.
Give a month of working on NILIF, walking them separately, taking them separately to classes, and take that seminar. And I wonder if maybe things will get easier. It sounds like you already keep them separated when you are not supervising, so it sounds doable.
|12-14-2012 08:49 PM|
I agree that the dog needs help. But my concern is that two female 13 m/o GSDs may be a bit much for one person to handle. They're going through the adolescent stage, are feeding off each other and are competing (not as badly as they could, but it is competing).
It's true OP's daughter is at an age where a pet just isn't as easy to give proper care to. And as the above poster said, kudos to OP for taking the animals on! But I do think things would be easier, if not more effective, if OP could get some help. Obviously a trainer is great for both dogs.
But what about trying to reel in the daughter a bit to help?
Dotty- I know you said that your daughter avoided the training. How does she feel about hiking?
Just an idea, depending on the dog of course and your daughter... How would your daughter feel about getting some friends together and going on a hike, and taking the pup that is hers? She could do some simple training while out and about, exercise the dog, and still get social time. And while she had hers hiking, you could work with your girl without worrying that hers isn't happy (:
Not sure if that idea would work for you guys, but I wanted to throw it out there.
|12-14-2012 08:22 PM|
|Stevenzachsmom||Dotty, Jane is right. The reason your daughter can't care for the pets is unimportant. What is important is that you did not let these pets fall through the cracks. Kudos to you for stepping up to the plate. I have three kids currently living at home - 23, 19, and 14. The older two are college students. The youngest just started high school. We recently got a puppy. I knew going in that I would be the primary caregiver. Everyone loves the puppy, but I am the only one who has time. That's just the way it is.|
|12-14-2012 08:14 PM|
|12-14-2012 08:11 PM|
Kymmey, you weren't the only one who commented on the daughter... it doesn't change the situation. I understood your point, but the daughter can only change if she wants to change.
The dog, on the other hand, needs the help.
You are responsible, and that is amazing, because not many are at your age!! Too many things pulling them every which way.
|12-14-2012 08:04 PM|
Well I apologize for not properly saying what I was trying to say. I wasn't judging her daughter, like I said... My sister is the same way. And so are all but three of my friends. Not everyone is ready for this kind of commitment. The only reason I can handle it is because I have no social life, am too young for alcohol and don't care for it anyways. Add in an aversion to be around people and I'm the perfect dog-a-holic LOL!
I guess someone might understand the point I was trying to make. I would restate it if I knew a better way to put it.
|12-14-2012 07:59 PM|
GSD's can be overwhelming for any age. I don't think that many young people know what they are getting into when they get a puppy, let alone a GSD.
I know many younger adults are very responsible, but their schedules are not conducive to being a dog parent, let alone a child parent.
I'm not sure why everyone feels the need to judge Dotty's daughter when Dotty said they got the pups impulsively. Hopefully DD will be more responsible when another pet enters her life/but I don't think discussing her 'lack of' is appropriate if she isn't here to defend herself.
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