Hi Amy. I read your post about picking the right pup. We somehow seem to be living parallel lives. I have 2 boys (15 and almost 12). I lost my husband 3 years ago to ALS. We got our girl Indie last May. Our breeder picked her for us. We had several conversations about our plans for the dog, our lifestyles, personalities, and other pets. We went with a female because we thought she might be easier on our 3 cats. Indie is a long coat. We weren't crazy about that, but the breeder chose well - she fits right into our crazy household. She chases 2 of the cats (non aggressively). They tease her though. The third very old cat ignores her and she ignores him. Hope things go well for you. Just wanted to reach out to you; sometimes I feel alone in my young widow, kids, pets situation.