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Old 10-03-2012, 08:06 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I made the heartbreaking decision to euthanize Luther on July 23, after aggression towards strangers turned into aggression towards house members and pets. It was a life long struggle of dealing with aggression, training, stress colitis, severe chronic diarrhea, the prospect of lifelong medications, etc...

But when does the pain ever get better? Each day I feel a little better, but then something will trigger a memory and I'll just break down. I miss him so much. And although I feel like I made the right decision most of the time, I can't tell you how many times I regret it as well. Did I REALLY make the right decision? Or did I just give up for selfish reasons, sick of dealing with such a problem dog? It doesn't help that in just a few days it would be his 4th birthday.

For all his problems, all I can think about is my sweet little dog that had such a personality. I loved him so much, and just miss him a ton. And although I've put a deposit down on a puppy for next spring (because I knew I wouldn't be ready any sooner then that for another dog), I feel like everyone else has moved on and I'm the only one stuck in this world of sadness, missing my poor little Lu-dog.





Happy Birthday, Luther. I love you and miss you

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My heart goes out to you.

No matter the reason, putting a love pet down is gut wrenching.

I'd personally suggest you get the new pup sooner than later.

One never 'replaces' the other, but it does give you reason to open your heart in a good way and busy your mind on the positive.
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My heart goes out to you.

No matter the reason, putting a love pet down is gut wrenching.

I'd personally suggest you get the new pup sooner than later.

One never 'replaces' the other, but it does give you reason to open your heart in a good way and busy your mind on the positive.

Trust me, part of me would love a little fluffy ball running around. But when I think about getting a puppy right now, all I think is that I'm just replacing Luther.

Besides, the litter isn't even whelped yet, the mating is occuring next month, pups will be born in January and 8 weeks old in March.

I already made the mistake of getting a poorly bred dog due to inpatience and not wanting to "pay" for a better dog from a better breeder, and that only got me three years of hearbreak. Not only did I lose Luther, I lost my little T.J. kitty that he killed. I'm NOT making that mistake again.
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Old 10-03-2012, 09:54 PM   #4 (permalink)
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he was a really pretty boy. so sorry for your loss, that sounded very tough. looks like you had a lot of good times too, try and focus on that. we love them like children, but they are animals, with animal instints, we forget that sometimes.

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My sincerest condolences.
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i'm so sorry for your loss.
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I'm sorry for your loss. As for when it gets better... it depends. I waited over a year to finally decide to take a chance again. By then I'd gone into a deep depression. Please don't let yourself do that. Getting Grim has helped so much. I still get teary when I think about or see dogs that look like mine. BUT that gut wrenching hole in my heart has finally stopped aching. For some, I think the only way to heal is with another shepherd. I totally understand your thought, though. I also wanted to get a shepherd this time that would be well bred to avoid the severe aggression issues I've already dealt with before. I think you're making a very smart move there. Let yourself heal. Forgive yourself.
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I am very sorry.
From personal experience, I can tell you you'll probably wonder almost daily if it was the right thing.
Try to remember the "bad" as much as the good, because it's human nature to romanticize our memories.

If you posted or kept a journal, it helps to go back and read and actually try to remember how you felt when the dog was alive and you were under the stress you were due to the problems.

I've done that a few times, and I can relive how bad things were and remember that the dog is in a much better place now, healthy and without mental issues.
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I am very sorry.
From personal experience, I can tell you you'll probably wonder almost daily if it was the right thing.
Try to remember the "bad" as much as the good, because it's human nature to romanticize our memories.

If you posted or kept a journal, it helps to go back and read and actually try to remember how you felt when the dog was alive and you were under the stress you were due to the problems.

I've done that a few times, and I can relive how bad things were and remember that the dog is in a much better place now, healthy and without mental issues.
That is VERY good advice, thank you SO much! Yes it is easy to romanticize the relationship after all is said and done, and to "forget" about all the troubles and pain
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Old 10-04-2012, 08:48 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Anubis I am so sorry for you and Luther

My last girl was difficult, but she was put to sleep because of an illness.
She would have been 4 on the 2nd Sept

I miss her so much and still cry for her but my new little girl has helped.
But you know in yourself when it is the right time

I heard an old song on the radio yesterday and two lines really hit home

"Only love can break a heart"
"And only love can mend it"
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