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Old 09-22-2012, 12:20 AM   #11 (permalink)
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I don't know how to encourage or advise you except to say I know exactly how I feel. I put Franklin down exactly a week ago and I have had those "what if moments" often. I think the best thing we can do is cry our eyes out and feel what we are going to feel. I want my dog back and that's all there is too it but nothing will bring him back. I have his memory, and you have Akira's. They are our angel's. Our other dogs still need us. I don't know about you but my two living dogs have not left my side.
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Old 09-22-2012, 01:43 AM   #12 (permalink)
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Selzer said
"Guilt isn't much use. Feeling guilty will not make your puppy happy. It will not bring her back. It is just a way for you to beat up on yourself. You did what you could for this girl, and you loved her.I think that does not die." and I couldn't agree more. Concentrate on the good memories and be secure in the knowledge that you did your best.

My old girl Crusher had bad arthritis and entitlement issues in her old age and I lost my temper with her a few times when she would wake me up with her lonely barks. I do feel badly about yelling at her but in retrospect those episodes reinforce my decision to put her to sleep. Neither of us were comfortable.
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Old 09-22-2012, 07:04 AM   #13 (permalink)
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Only time will make it better!
It will always hurt, always be sad but the pain gets less as time goes on.
My first dog has been gone just over a year and I still feel so guilty over the way she was PTS. I also still get teary thinking about her, I don't often read this particular forum because it brings all those sad feelings up again.
BUT - I can now also think and talk about my Maxi and laugh about some of the silly things she used to do.
You will never forget your little girl, once it stops hurting quite so much let yourself think about some of the happier times you guys had - don't dwell on the bad things, you did everything you could for her!
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Old 09-22-2012, 07:42 PM   #14 (permalink)
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Thank you everyone for the advice. For now, I will continue to cry and cry and cry...and hopefully soon it will get better. I will never stop missing her.

I still keep thinking this isn't real, that she really isn't gone. I wish it wasn't real. Life is so unfair at times.

I picked up her ashes yesterday, I bought her the most beautiful urn ever, it's copper with two paw prints on it. I do believe I will see her again, at the rainbow bridge. Until then, her paw prints will forever be on my heart.

It's crazy how much of an impact these little fuzzballs make on your life. You get so attached to them so fast. Dogs are the bestfriends a human could ever have. <3
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Old 09-22-2012, 10:02 PM   #15 (permalink)
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Thank you everyone for the advice. For now, I will continue to cry and cry and cry...and hopefully soon it will get better. I will never stop missing her.

I still keep thinking this isn't real, that she really isn't gone. I wish it wasn't real. Life is so unfair at times.

I picked up her ashes yesterday, I bought her the most beautiful urn ever, it's copper with two paw prints on it. I do believe I will see her again, at the rainbow bridge. Until then, her paw prints will forever be on my heart.

It's crazy how much of an impact these little fuzzballs make on your life. You get so attached to them so fast. Dogs are the bestfriends a human could ever have. <3
I was going to search for this post and ask you how you're feeling...
Hang in there...
We are here for you <3
If you need anything, PM me. I know virtual friendships can't get you through much but sometimes just some comfy cozy words do help.
You and your pup are in my prayers...
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Old 09-23-2012, 12:15 AM   #16 (permalink)
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I was going to search for this post and ask you how you're feeling...
Hang in there...
We are here for you <3
If you need anything, PM me. I know virtual friendships can't get you through much but sometimes just some comfy cozy words do help.
You and your pup are in my prayers...
Thank you.

No, you are completely right, kind words help a ton. And it helps a ton to talk about it, and know that I am not the only one who feels this way.

Thank you again.
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Old 09-23-2012, 08:55 AM   #17 (permalink)
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i don't do things that i'll feel guilty about.
i don't have anger or sadness. i see the
beauty in life. i don't feel anger because
i'm connected to love. i don't feel sad because
i choose to be happy.
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Old 09-23-2012, 09:17 AM   #18 (permalink)
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There are some good article about grieving the loss of a pet on Patricia McConnell's blog "One Step Forward Two Steps Back" and I think they're on her website "The Other End of the Leash". Some research indicates that having to put down a pet and the days after have a similar affect on the human's body as having surgery. So give yourself some time to recover.
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Old 09-24-2012, 03:00 AM   #19 (permalink)
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There are some good article about grieving the loss of a pet on Patricia McConnell's blog "One Step Forward Two Steps Back" and I think they're on her website "The Other End of the Leash". Some research indicates that having to put down a pet and the days after have a similar affect on the human's body as having surgery. So give yourself some time to recover.
Thank you, I read her blog, it did help.

Doggiedad, you are a strong person.
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Old 09-24-2012, 06:11 AM   #20 (permalink)
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you can choose to be strong also.

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Thank you, I read her blog, it did help.

Doggiedad, you are a strong person.
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