His ashes.... (Zeus)

[momto3k9s]

I am trying to prepare for his ashes to come back. I believe we are getting them tomorrow, (Wed). This past week and a half was hard. It was so hard leaving his body at the vets office. I know his spirit is not in this body but...it was so difficult to leave him there. I felt like I was abandoning him. I am having such a hard time knowing what they had to do to "him"....that big, soft, fuzzy body I used to hug and hold everyday. ... Tomorrow is going to be a rough day! I look at his pictures while I'm at work and I think to myself I can't wait to get home and scratch that big fuzzy head of his and for a split second I forget he's not here anymore. It was so natural to always have him here. It seems unreal still at times. I just can't believe he's gone. Just knowing I had a 100lb+ dog and I'm getting back a tiny box...I don't think I'm going to do well tomorrow. ... It will get easier...it will get easier...it will get easier....it will get easier... - one day it will sink in.

[AvaLaRue]

This brought tears to my eyes. It brought back the memory of this past Thanksgiving when we had to let our dear Abby (black lab) go. She was 18 years old. We had rescued her when she was 4 so we had her for 14 years and she was my 15 year old son's best friend. The hardest thing we did was leave her at the vet's office and then pick up her ashes. We had wanted her ashes home for Christmas but there was an issue with getting her back in time and we didn't have her ashes home for Christmas. That was upsetting. My son now has them on his dresser in his bedroom. He put her collar around the tin and he talks to her still when he's feeling down.

It will get better...I promise you. We have all gotten to the point the we can actually talk about Abby without tearing up and changing the subject. The old saying..."it's better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all"...I believe this applies to the bond we have with our animals. I can't imagine never having loved or been loved by Abby..even though in the end I lost her...I would never trade that time with her for anything. It takes time to heal...while physically Zeus is no longer with you, he will forever be in your heart.

My thoughts and prayers are with you as you go through the next few days.

[JakodaCD OA]

I had a really hard time with this also..I got the box, and thought,,my god, my dog is in there((

I just got this ad and haven't checked it out yet, they supposedly have nice jewelry and such to preserve ashes, hair, whatever,,Pet Memorial Jewelry by Lisa Havelin

I saved alot of Dodges fur and have some in a locket, but will check this out as well, it comforts me to know he is always with me..

Hang in there,

[AvaLaRue]

Originally Posted by JakodaCD OA

I had a really hard time with this also..I got the box, and thought,,my god, my dog is in there((

I just got this ad and haven't checked it out yet, they supposedly have nice jewelry and such to preserve ashes, hair, whatever,,Pet Memorial Jewelry by Lisa Havelin

I saved alot of Dodges fur and have some in a locket, but will check this out as well, it comforts me to know he is always with me..

Hang in there,

Thanks for that link...I saved some of abby's fur also. Hopefully they have something masculine for my son. He wears her dog tag on a chain around his neck.

[bianca]

I really can't offer you much Linda apart from the old cliché that time heals. I found it to be true for my girls, 4 years on and I still have the odd 'moment' but in general I can talk about them and laugh at memories. My only advice would be for you to allow yourself time to grieve for your beloved Zeus

[Trina]

Yes, it gets easier with time, but there are always going to be those moments. It's been nine months since Klaus passed away, and we speak of him nearly every day with love and smiles and jokes even.

But yesterday morning, I called my husband to remind him of what day it was, and suddenly I couldn't speak. My throat closed up and tears welled up and I couldn't regain my composure for some long minutes.

Yesterday would have been Klaus's tenth birthday.

Yeah, it's tough.

[Wolfiesmom]

I lost Chief 10 years ago and still think of him every day. I didn't get his ashes because I didn't think I could handle it. Now I wish I did.

[Trina]

Originally Posted by Wolfiesmom

I lost Chief 10 years ago and still think of him every day. I didn't get his ashes because I didn't think I could handle it. Now I wish I did.

The place where we have taken all of our dogs to be cremated have a book in their lobby where you can write a little something about your pet. At the end of the week (or month, whatever) they take out those "memory pages" burn them and then spread those ashes in the garden there. I thought that was very sweet and I know it made me feel good to write down some of the things I loved about our dogs.

Perhaps, you could write a letter to Chief or just jot down some memories, something, burn it and then keep those ashes? I know it's not the same thing at all as Chief's ashes, but it may help.

[holland]

I buried Max and Sadie at a place I consider home...my grandmothers home Its a place that Max loved underneath a tree that he used to like to lie under. My uncle planted the tree. It brings me comfort to know that they are buried there I like your signature line

[GSDLoverII]

Linda,
We have our 2 cat's and Michaels Great Dane's ashes in urns on the fireplace mantel.
It was actually very comforting to have them back home where they belong.
My mom had her dog Hunter cremated too.
At first, she didn't like the idea, but then she was glad she had it done.
I too talk to them all of the time.
I had both of my cats for 18 years.
The Great Dane was before my husband and I were together, but I know it comforts him.