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sarahp 07-11-2014 12:21 AM

I am SO angry!
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Well, I finally moved into my apartment and got settled in yesterday. Today, my roommates boyfriend was here and was playing with Atticus a little bit of the day. When I put atti in his crate for nap time, I would come back in my room and the boyfriend would be sitting on the floor next to his crate poking and growling at him and trying to get him to wake up and growl back. The second time it happened, I said something to him that it needed to stop because his crate needs to be his safe place and he needed to take his nap and rest for an hour or so. He takes his nap, goes outside and when I come back in, I ask if roommate and bf would watch him for 10 minutes so I could do some things in my room and settle in more. 2 minutes later, Atti is screaming like he is in pain and so I run out there to the living room and boyfriend is holding him a foot off the ground by his collar and smacking his nose, screaming at him. I grab atti, take him to my room and hold him while he's shaking and whimpering (after shouting a few choice words at bf). Apparently, Atticus had grabbed his shoelace and untied his shoe.

Let me remind you, Atti isn't even 9 weeks old. I've had him 5 days. Now he won't let you touch his neck or try and put his leash on. He cries and whimpers with his tail tucked and tries to run away. Earlier in the day, her boyfriend had given Atticus his shoes and shirt to play with and would throw them across the room for him to chase. I put an end to that real quick after I saw it happen. I explained that he doesn't need to learn that clothes and shoes are toys.

It definitely shook me up and Atti has either been glued to me or shaking in his crate since this afternoon. You would think people would have more common sense! He's a PUPPY. he's going to chew on things. He has 10-12 toys in the apartment that are within arms reach at all times so we can teach what's good and bad to chew on. Lesson learned: never trust people with your puppy.
I feel so bad for my little man. He's sleeping in my bed tonight :( any suggestions to help him get over the collar fear now?

mego 07-11-2014 12:24 AM

Don't make too big of a deal about it with the pup, it will move on - remain positive and upbeat. But I'd tear that bf a new one and in the future do not leave your dog unattended when they are around. Sounds like they can't be trusted at all.

sarahp 07-11-2014 01:10 AM

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Originally Posted by mego (Post 5759874)
Don't make too big of a deal about it with the pup, it will move on - remain positive and upbeat. But I'd tear that bf a new one and in the future do not leave your dog unattended when they are around. Sounds like they can't be trusted at all.

It took everything in me not to do more than scream at him. I'm not trying to make it into something huge, just trying to build his trust and confidence back up. After it happened, he wouldn't let my boyfriend touch him, which was incredibly out of character because they're best friends. Atti LOVES him. I don't want it to turn into a fear of men. I might be jumping the gun. I guess I'm too quick to assume everyone will treat my dog right. He's been left with my roommate, family and boyfriend and he hasn't had a problem.

NancyJ 07-11-2014 02:52 AM

The pup may be telling you something about this boyfriend you need to be evaluating....that is some pretty extreme behavior for the 'offense'

my boy diesel 07-11-2014 02:55 AM

dump the jerk and save your poor puppy!!

Pax8 07-11-2014 03:56 AM

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Practice collar grabs with treats - reach towards his collar, give a treat, grab his collar give a treat, rub his neck gently, give a treat. He should bounce back quickly and when he is working well for you, have your boyfriend do the same.

From now on, the roommate's boyfriend has ZERO contact with Atti. Though I'm sure you were already going to do that.

I understand this particular frustration. I moved in with some roommates who all seemed decently knowledgeable about dogs - not experts or anything, but seemed to have common sense. Well, the first night I brought Kaiju home I put him in his X-pen and came back into the room to find them whacking him i the face with their hands, encouraging him to chew hands. I yelled at them about it, they apologized. The next day, I came back from running an errand to find them handing him a Nylabone, them ripping out of his mouth and laughing when he screamed for it. I stopped any interaction between them at that point and crated him in my room when I was gone. Found out a couple days later they were going INTO MY ROOM and taking him out of the crate to do the same things I was yelling at them about. Ended up having to padlock my room when I was not there.

At least the boyfriend does not live there it seems like? If his general attitude towards your puppy continues in this direction, I might have a serious talk to your roommate about the boyfriend simply NOT being allowed over at the apartment.

counter 07-11-2014 05:19 AM


Originally Posted by my boy diesel (Post 5760074)
dump the jerk and save your poor puppy!!

I think you meant her roomies BF and not her BF. Just wanted to be clear. Her BF isn't the issue.

NancyJ 07-11-2014 06:11 AM

Phew! thanks for clarifying!!

JakodaCD OA 07-11-2014 06:48 AM

the guy would have been quite close to 'dead' if I caught him doing that to my puppy,

My concern now is, what could happen if you leave this puppy home alone and the boyfirend is around?

Sunflowers 07-11-2014 06:56 AM

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Put a lock on your door. A good one.
The puppy needs to be tethered to you or in your room, crated, with the door locked.

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