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vicky2200 05-07-2014 12:55 PM

Recent loss (HS)/ Dog who doesn't like affection
 
I have multiple things to write about, so instead of making multiple threads, I will write them all here. This will be long so feel free to skim if you only want to get to my question.

On Sunday we had to make the decision to put Dakota to sleep. Even though he was 10 years old it was a complete shock. He had been doing so well (history of epilepsy and hip dysplasia) and we thought he had at least a year left with us. On Saturday he began acting strangely, crying a little bit and licking his lips. In the past he had licked his lips (nervous habit) so we didn't think much of it. Very early Sunday the crying got worse and I realize he was having pain when he was trying to turn off of his side (he laid on his side frequently). I assessed his body and thought he hurt his front leg. In the past he pulled a muscle and acted similar- not wanted to get up for anything.

We didn't think it was a true emergency and we were up north where in order to see a vet on Sunday's, you must have a true emergency. We were going down state so we decided to take him to the e-vet there. However when we got there he was significantly weaker (but we still thought it was just his leg). We were told that it wasn't his leg and after blood work and Xray we were informed he had 2 masses and internal bleeding. One was on his spleen, leading them to suspect hemangiosarcoma. The other mass was hard to tell if it was on his liver or in his fat tissue. At this point he was very weak. We made the difficult decision to say goodbye to him then because his chance of long term/ good quality of life survival was very slim.

This was the hardest things to do because he had no signs of being ill (common with HS). He was the smartest dog I will probably ever have and will be missed and remembered forever.

:confused:With all that said, I am reminded of how quick we can lose our loved ones. I am trying to make every day great for my dogs, so in the event that they pass unexpectedly, their last day was the best it could have been. However, Ditto does not like many things. She does not like affection unless 1) I just came home or 2) I just woke up. She loves affection from strangers. If I try to rub her belly, hug her, or even pet her for more than a few seconds she walks away. She enjoys going for a walk, but the one things she truly loves is to play fetch. It is to the point where she will cry all day if we aren't playing fetch. We can't possibly play fetch all day.

So if I take her for a long walk and play fetch with her, there is still a lot of her day that she is laying on the couch depressed/crying. She does not do well with strange dogs, so any group events/classes are out of the question. Any ideas of what else I can do for her? My other dogs enjoy playing with other toys, getting affection, and cuddling. She knows quite a few commands, but I can work on more with her.:help:

huntergreen 05-07-2014 01:05 PM

imho, just do the best you can. somewhere along the line she learned crying will get you to what she wants. lol sorry for your loss.

Daisy&Lucky's Mom 05-07-2014 01:06 PM

I am so sorry to hear of Dakota's passing. It is so hard to lose these wonderful companions and family members. Lucky is affectionate but not like daisy and the girls want to be near but arent big time snugglers.It sounds like Ditto has a great day as long as she gets to play fetch and walks . She may not need physical affection. Thats a hard one . Its been almost two years and I still miss Daisy as a snuggler.Take care

K9POPPY 05-07-2014 02:26 PM

So, so sorry for your loss- We've been through that many times, it's never easy to make decisions, but I am sure your dog had a great life with you-

Zeeva 05-07-2014 05:10 PM

This is so heartbreaking :C

I think you and Ditto are hurting right now and that's not the best place to be when making decisions.

I don't think you can make a pup happy every moment of every day. I agree with Steve in that if she cries, you need to learn to ignore it in order for her to learn to be content during down time.

It's difficult when a dog doesn't like affection. My husky is a little like that but he'll tolerate it and he does enjoy belly rubs so I'm lucky. Just know that not all dogs perceive love through physical affection. When you play fetch with her and take her for a walk, I think she knows that you love her. I'm sure she looks forward to that time you give her.

As for the time in between playing fetch or going for a walk, why do you feel she is unhappy or crying? Is she really? Or is it in your head because you want to enrich her life more? I've learned to accept down time as content time for my pups but it did take a while...

I know I'm rambling and I'm sorry for that. I just feel like you're in a tough spot...

<3

vicky2200 05-07-2014 10:34 PM

It's because she just lies on the couch with a sad look on her face when we aren't playing fetch or walking. If I ignore her crying long enough she stops but she looks sad. This isn't a new thing since we lost Dakota.

I am going to try to increase her walk time. I can't add any more fetch because he hurt her knee years ago.


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