Annoying!!

[Kaasuti]

My partner won't listen to what i say to him about my Charlie. I told him not to stand over my puppy because he still has a submissive peeing problem. But he does it anyway then gets mad at the dog (he's only an eight month old puppy). It's really getting to me now .

[Mary Beth]

There are some helpful threads on submissive peeing - maybe if you showed them to your partner he would understand how his behavior isn't helping your pup but making it worse.

[LoveOscar]

Ours is a submissive pee'er. We (DH and I) understand that in desensitizing we will cause it on occasion, but it really tweaked a nerve having a friend over, warning them about it and what not to do, see them do it anyways and cause Oscar to pee.

You have to really lay your foot down to your partner and explain to him. Either that or every time he pee's your partner is the one on hands and knees scrubbing it up.

LO

[Blanketback]

I would try to keep all conflict to a minimum, for Charlie's sake, but inside I'd be seething. That's more than just annoying, if you ask me. Sometimes people just don't want to listen, and you have to try a new tactic. Like, every time he does this to your puppy, you throw an egg at his car. Childish? Maybe...but after 6 months of this you really need to try something new, lol. Good luck with him! (the partner, lol) Mary Beth's suggestion is a good one, if he'll actually listen to you and read the threads.

[LoveOscar]

I dont suggest throwing eggs, as they seriously damage the paint down to metal and will cause other domestic issues. You dont want to branch out issues and cause more bad feelings, you want to address the main issue and diffuse it to a smaller or lesser issue, if not all together stop it.

And believe me, when he sees the circular spider cracks from eggshells breaking, he'll **** bricks and cause a whole other mountain of trouble.

LO

[kgulbranso]

Ditch the partner, keep the dog!

[Blanketback]

Thank you LoveOscar, I had no idea what a terrible suggestion that was! It's true that you learn something new every day: today I learned how damaging eggs can be. Not to mention that it might be considered a criminal offence, after googling it. Ooops. And here I thought I was being nice, by not saying what I *really* thought. My puppy had some excitement pee issues, so I can relate to this somewhat. But getting mad at the puppy? No way. And I only ask 3 times - only nicely once, at that.

[Mooch]

kgulbranso I totally agree

If your partner doesn't respect such a small request for a dog that you both share that worries me. Why does he stand over the dog?? Does he just "forget" or just not care?

If he's like that I doubt he'll clean up the pee that "your" dog caused. (I'm only guessing, I may be doing your partner a big wrong by saying that)

My SO had no idea about dogs when he moved in, but when we decided to add a pup he was quite excited to learn and have "his" puppy
He would never disrespect/ignore anything I asked of him once I explained why I was asking him not to do a certain thing around/with our new puppy.
Sometimes I had to remind him a couple of times cuz he just forgot but not ever anything important.

[Gregc]

Sounds like your SO is an A**.
Think about it. Jealous of the pup, maybe?
Think about it.
Smells like A**.

[LoveOscar]

I grew up a cat person, but I was so excited when I moved in with my SO and he had a GSD, and while I get frustrated and dont always do things that he wants, because I dont always understand, I try to learn and correct myself. Now I have my own, Oscar. But it takes the whole household to raise a dog, because one person going against the training can ruin everything. My MIL used treats to trick train our last Shepherd to "sit pretty" and ever there after he looked for treats. I dont treat train my dogs, hardly ever. Same thing with the horses. I almost got seriously hurt because some little girl wanted to treat the lesson horse while I was tacking up, and I nearly got kicked. Treats are the reward after work, not for doing work.

Blanketback, yeah a couple years ago someone was egging my moms brand new car. I saw the damage done, and I wouldnt do it. There are better ways to instigate a fight lol.

LO