Does not want me to leave him home alone

ZeusersPuppy · 11-14-2011, 12:41 PM

This is a new thing for him this weekend. As explained on some other posts (I'll keep it short) I got Zeus from my ex. Zeus prior to coming home with me 6 months ago was used to having someone always in the house (my ex) to let him out, and having a presence there although his reason for being there was working from home, so attention giving was scarce.

Since we got him, we take him for walks in the woods, fetch outside/inside, more attention than he was getting. Only difference though is I'm gone for work/commute for 12hrs a day and my boyfriend is anywhere from 6-9hrs a day.

This weekend (sat) my boyfriend had him outside while going to the car. I was getting ready inside. Zeus jumped inside the car and we couldn't get him out. took a lot of talking and treats to do so. Then once he was out he sat right in front of the car.

Then sunday as we went to go grocery shopping, he stood in the doorway and wouldn't let us leave. He actually had to take him with us to the store. What does this mean? is it anything more than just him hating to be alone? but why now after 6 months does he start to show how much he hate it?

Kittilicious · 11-14-2011, 02:37 PM

To me it sounds like he's ruling your life... instead of you ruling his. How could you not get him out of the car? Grab his collar and pull. And standing in a doorway? He's a dog, not a brick wall. Push him to the side.

ZeusersPuppy · 11-14-2011, 03:15 PM

well sure with force I could get him to move.
Usually without any problems hed listen even though it is something he doesn't want to do. I was just trying to state his drastic change in attitude. I was worried with how it was if there is something more going on with him. When he has never been like this, I wasn't sure how to react.

Thank you for your comment

**JakodaCD OA** · 11-14-2011, 05:47 PM

well I probably would have given in and taken him to

Nothing worse than having your dog give you "that look" that makes you feel bad ! LOL

I wouldn't say he's ruling your life, he just probably WANTS to be with you..I'd try leaving him with something to occupy his time, leave a radio on, if he's not being 'destructive' when alone, I wouldn't say it's separation anxiety, he just doesn't want to stay home , he just wants to go with you.. Sorry no real suggestions..

**MaggieRoseLee** · 11-14-2011, 07:37 PM

I would NOT make a big deal about it, but I wouldn't let him rule the roost either. Both of these instances wouldn't be ones I'd probably use treats for, just calmly clip the leash on the collar and use that to walk him where I want.

Truthfully, you have him crate trained? I crate my dogs in the house (with a treat) as part of my exit routine. So it's when I'm still in the house PLUS involves treats so my dogs kind of look forward to me leaving at this point....

I've found MANAGING my dogs behaviors usually mean less drama and confusion for everyone. So having a plan and using it, whether if means having a crate routine, or a leash in the car...... calm and consistant leadership from the HUMAN makes a much happier dog in the long run.

blehmannwa · 11-14-2011, 09:08 PM

I take my dogs on most errands so I don't see anything wrong with allowing them to come with--especially on weekends. I actually have hired a petsitter tonight as I'm going to dinner in a not-so-fun neighborhood and am not comfortable leaving them in the car. Felony, the pit-bull, has developed separation anxiety due to illness and the loss of her lifetime companions. I don't want Havs to pick up on her discomfort so I'd rather manage it this way than stress either of them out.

ZeusersPuppy · 11-15-2011, 02:53 PM

Thank you all for your input. I do not believe my ex ever had him crate trained before. He is a destructive dog and unfortunately is now locked up in the laundry room because of it when I leave. Wasn't sure if this is his way of saying he's had enough of me leaving him alone, which is probably all it is. I do spoil him I know, and have been becoming stern again to gain control of situations.

11-14-2011, 12:41 PM	#1 (permalink)
ZeusersPuppy Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Michigan Posts: 108	Does not want me to leave him home alone This is a new thing for him this weekend. As explained on some other posts (I'll keep it short) I got Zeus from my ex. Zeus prior to coming home with me 6 months ago was used to having someone always in the house (my ex) to let him out, and having a presence there although his reason for being there was working from home, so attention giving was scarce. Since we got him, we take him for walks in the woods, fetch outside/inside, more attention than he was getting. Only difference though is I'm gone for work/commute for 12hrs a day and my boyfriend is anywhere from 6-9hrs a day. This weekend (sat) my boyfriend had him outside while going to the car. I was getting ready inside. Zeus jumped inside the car and we couldn't get him out. took a lot of talking and treats to do so. Then once he was out he sat right in front of the car. Then sunday as we went to go grocery shopping, he stood in the doorway and wouldn't let us leave. He actually had to take him with us to the store. What does this mean? is it anything more than just him hating to be alone? but why now after 6 months does he start to show how much he hate it?

11-14-2011, 02:37 PM	#2 (permalink)
Kittilicious Elite Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Minnesota Posts: 1,100	To me it sounds like he's ruling your life... instead of you ruling his. How could you not get him out of the car? Grab his collar and pull. And standing in a doorway? He's a dog, not a brick wall. Push him to the side. __________________ - Berleen - Knuckles - born 8/21/11 - my big knucklehead and can't forget Saki; the Golden Retriever, Born 11/07/07 The felines that rule the house - Oliver, Serena, Sakura & Bastian. https://www.facebook.com/berleen

11-14-2011, 05:47 PM	#4 (permalink)
JakodaCD OA Moderator Join Date: May 2000 Location: Old Lyme, CT USA Posts: 14,237	well I probably would have given in and taken him to Nothing worse than having your dog give you "that look" that makes you feel bad ! LOL I wouldn't say he's ruling your life, he just probably WANTS to be with you..I'd try leaving him with something to occupy his time, leave a radio on, if he's not being 'destructive' when alone, I wouldn't say it's separation anxiety, he just doesn't want to stay home , he just wants to go with you.. Sorry no real suggestions.. __________________ Diane Danger Danger vom Kleinen Hain aka Masi "Angel" Jakoda's Bewitchen Sami CD OA OAJ OAC NGC OJC RS-O GS-N JS-O TT HIC CGC "Angel" Steinwald's Four x Four CGC HIC TT Harmonyhill's Hy Jynx NA NAJ NAC NJC RS-N JS-N HIC Jakoda's Jagged Edge

11-14-2011, 07:37 PM	#5 (permalink)
MaggieRoseLee The Agility Rocks! Moderator Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Bushkill, PA (The Poconos!) Posts: 22,215	I would NOT make a big deal about it, but I wouldn't let him rule the roost either. Both of these instances wouldn't be ones I'd probably use treats for, just calmly clip the leash on the collar and use that to walk him where I want. Truthfully, you have him crate trained? I crate my dogs in the house (with a treat) as part of my exit routine. So it's when I'm still in the house PLUS involves treats so my dogs kind of look forward to me leaving at this point.... I've found MANAGING my dogs behaviors usually mean less drama and confusion for everyone. So having a plan and using it, whether if means having a crate routine, or a leash in the car...... calm and consistant leadership from the HUMAN makes a much happier dog in the long run. __________________ MACH2 Bretta Lee Wildhaus CGC TC TQX Glory B Wildhaus NA, NJ, NF + LOL (still) "*Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much." - Oscar Wilde*

11-14-2011, 03:15 PM	#3 (permalink)
ZeusersPuppy Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Michigan Posts: 108	well sure with force I could get him to move. Usually without any problems hed listen even though it is something he doesn't want to do. I was just trying to state his drastic change in attitude. I was worried with how it was if there is something more going on with him. When he has never been like this, I wasn't sure how to react. Thank you for your comment

11-14-2011, 09:08 PM	#6 (permalink)
blehmannwa Master Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Seattle Posts: 778	I take my dogs on most errands so I don't see anything wrong with allowing them to come with--especially on weekends. I actually have hired a petsitter tonight as I'm going to dinner in a not-so-fun neighborhood and am not comfortable leaving them in the car. Felony, the pit-bull, has developed separation anxiety due to illness and the loss of her lifetime companions. I don't want Havs to pick up on her discomfort so I'd rather manage it this way than stress either of them out.

11-15-2011, 02:53 PM	#7 (permalink)
ZeusersPuppy Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Michigan Posts: 108	Thank you all for your input. I do not believe my ex ever had him crate trained before. He is a destructive dog and unfortunately is now locked up in the laundry room because of it when I leave. Wasn't sure if this is his way of saying he's had enough of me leaving him alone, which is probably all it is. I do spoil him I know, and have been becoming stern again to gain control of situations.

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