Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Grand Rapids, MI
No, no pressure from parents, but not a lot of help either. Both sides of my family were middle class with blue collar type jobs in my grandparents' and parents' generations (carpentry, contracting, plumbing....) but all three of my grandpas (I had one step-grandpa) were very smart with money, very frugal, true products of the Great Depression. No lived beyond their means and my family growing up didn't either. College was not out of the question for my parents' generation, but not something you automatically did, and *certainly* not something that your parents or grandparents paid for. It was the same for me. I went to college (a small, tougher, liberal arts school that cost about $25K per year) and had no help from my parents. My brother did not go to college and is a professional fishing guide. My sister went to college and has a social work/OT type job. I never had a car or an allowance growing up. I bought my own clothes, worked if I wanted money to see movies or buy something. It wasn't my parents making a conscious decision to raise us independent or not spoil us, that's just how it was because we weren't rich, and I never thought my parents were hard-butts or that I wasn't a normal kid (even though I went to a tough private high school and most of my classmates were upper middle class to downright wealthy). I had no rules, no curfew, but on the other hand I got straight As, worked almost every day, and stayed out of trouble. I got married when I finished college (refused to entertain the idea of getting married during school), bought my first vehicle when I was 24 and my first house when I was 25. I've worked in the same place for 11.5 years and am working on my final promotion to the highest level. I think my parents are very happy with my choices and the fact that I have a house, am starting a family, and have a good secure job and am not 30 yet.