To certain things Ill hold a grudge(kind of an internal "I wont forget that") but I try not to let it affect how I deal with that person, espcially at work. I try to be an "Owell its done and over with" kind of guy. Not always easy
Depends on what they did... Usually unless someone has really wronged me or been extremely rude I let things go. But a lot of little things for me add up to a big thing and I would probably just cut off all ties with that person. I try to live by the golden rule like my grandpa taught me! Especially over the internet where the other person knows nothing about me except what I've told them, I just ignore it unless it REALLY eats at me and if after a day or so it's still on my mind I will go ahead and say it. Almost always it's not really worth it. This is just my opinion and you can do what you like obviously, but after 5 months it would not be worth it to me. I would just write that person off as ignorant and forget all about them People only have as much power as you give them, don't let negative people bring you down! You seem like such a sweet person, your posts are always very nice
I have to say though, sometimes posts I have read have just completely floored me, like does this person really talk to people this way? Especially posters who seem incredibly bitter or sarcastic or arrogant in everything they reply to. I can't imagine they have many friends acting like that, and it makes me feel bad for them.
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I've only ever used the confrontational approach, so I think this is why I don't hold grudges, lol. If something is so bad that I have no choice but to deal with it, then I do. And if something isn't worth getting upset about, then I forget about it.
But that's what I do IRL. These boards aren't the same, because you have no idea what the other person even means! You don't know anything about them, what they're going through, how they feel...it would be nice if nobody ever posted anything to hurt you, but I think it's more realistic to treat an unkind reply like you would treat someone honking their horn at you: just some random noise.
Do you hold grudges? If you do, how do you deal with it? Avoidance?Confrontation? Meditation? Distraction?
I've tried most of it, except for the 'confrontation' part.
It's been several months since someone posted something 'mean'(?) in one of my threads and I want to reply to it, but it feels so childish and disgraceful. But I can't shake it either...
So what should I do? Literally it's been like 5 months. Will I ever let go...?
Some can't help themselves being first rate jerks. Some people like to belittle others. It's how they are and what ever you reply back won't make a difference with that sometimes.
With grudges, it all depends on how you hold a grudge. Does it eat you up inside and cause you to treat others in an unpleasant way? If that's the case, the only way to handle that is to let it go. It's tough but you have to or it will consume you. Look at it like this. When you hold a grudge this way, they hold the power over your personal life. End it by letting go and ignore that person as if they do not exist. Get your mind trained this way by getting your mind on something more important then them. Step around around them. If they pursue, report them.
If you can hold a grudge inside and not let it consume you, nothing wrong with that. Just lie in wait until an opportune time to get the upper hand and prepare for the opportunity.
The other way is the best. Letting it go so they don't hold your thoughts hostage is the best.