Something that I have read recently about this exact subject was to treat Friendships like you would an actual relationship with your significant other (obviously without the physical need, lol) But you go about it the same way. Meet, talk, exchange numbers, do something in a big group, etc.
Another thing that I had to remind myself when I moved to Florida by myself was that friends weren't going to come to me. And I kept meeting people but they were all into things I wasn't, but then it dawned on me. If I want to have a friend who enjoys what I enjoy, I actually have to do those things. So I was going out, thinking if I'm out, I will meet people, vs the thought that well I'm going to go to the dog park more because those people like dogs too and there's a common ground. Or I want someone who is going to be able to keep up with me physically.. hiking, kayaking, running, etc.. so I should probably not put my "b*tch" face on at the gym anymore. Those kinds of things. It was really hard for me here for some reason, but just doing things I liked really really helped me meet people that are into the same things as me and it wasn't a constant struggle to find common ground. Also, I don't know if you go to church or not, but that was a huge avenue for me when I finally found one over here.
Are you more introverted or extroverted?
Commander Charly Titan (GSD)-15 Jan 2010