Ungrateful People Week
Is there something in the air? I swear it has been one instance after the other this week.
My step-son refuses to talk to dh - he's 14 and moody so, whatever, because the dirtbike we bought him wasn't a 2010-present Kawasaki 250 dual purpose - you get nothing now kiddo!
People complaining about money and bills etc., OK it seems like a lot, but dh got shorted $800 this week, because they paid him the wrong rate for a week, we had $800 in payments due out this week, which meant, not a whole lot left-over, we'll make it to next pay (Friday) but still... He got bumped to work tomorrow because one of the other guys has a house to pay for - he has 2, it's his own doing and what does he think the rest of us live in, hovels? Dh has an 180km commute both ways. Again, OK, because I am a bit money savvy but dh is leaving on a 10day vacation next week. We could have used 16 hours LOL - 8 at double time.
Dh's family, well it's only a 10day vacation. Umm... See above and he works in a company, while very busy and well-respected, only has 12 operating engineers, him taking 3 weekends of cripples them AND is not fair to the other guys who might want a weekend off in September.
Where does everyone think they have dibbs on our time or what we worked for?
I'm reading stuff lately on this site and others that makes me say WTF?
At 14, not many jobs locally, small town, I hayed, back before round bales, we mowed hay until 10pm at night, I made $21-25/day, I made more than my friends working retail jobs. I worked every night through college for $6/hr - OK stuff was cheaper then, but still. I built a career, starting out in commission only and bought my first home at 21.
I have always been a believer in older folks exaggerating and younger folks working as hard as we did, but I'm starting to doubt myself. Where does the entitlement come from and why is wanting more for yourself a bad thought? Why can't you work two jobs, many of us did it, why is it OK to work for minimum wage with no plan to better yourself. I actually blew my own opportunity this week with a client because I dared to insinuate their laborers should want more and should want better educations, not be happy with minimum wage and an existence, if you can call it that of mediocre.
Where did we go wrong and are we a dying breed, or is it another societal evolution?
Try working in the ER like I do. You will loose the greater majority f your faith in humanity in a weekend or less :/
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I don't think ER gives a good sample tho.......especially here where ER is usually where the poor folks end up for urgent care and those involved in or victims of crime get initial treatment.
Whereas a normal Dr. office or walk in clinic you'll see a greater range of people, demographically speaking.
Canada is more stable but not immune to vagaries of human nature.
@Ozzymama, I too ponder similar questions.
I read a rather amusing comment awhile back, "we humans are operating in a modern world with 10,000 year old software". We may have evolved technology but how we operate, perceive, judge life and each other hasn't really changed that much.
The kids in the 60s who were "Godless hippies" are now the seniors wagging fingers at the next generation. I look at the kids walking around with their faces glued to mobile devices and these thoughts cross my mind, what have we done?
So while sometimes it feels like it, I don't think we are rewriting history.
We are just reliving it, over and over, with more advanced technology.
If we were to 'really' re-write history the world would be more like this:
"Imagine there's no countries
It isn't hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion too
Imagine all the people
Living life in peace...
You may say I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will be as one
Imagine no possessions
I wonder if you can
No need for greed or hunger
A brotherhood of man
Imagine all the people
Sharing all the world..." Lennon
Any movement away from this ideal is really just more of the same, nothing different or new.
In reality we are just as good and just as crappy to fellow mankind as we always have been. Truly this is nothing new under the sun. Look at the writings of Huxley, Dickens, Asimov, Orwell past and future still the same struggles.
And so probably will it always be, therefore all we can do is try find happiness and peace while living in our very imperfect world.
It's not easy. So my hubs and I often dream of moving deep into the Blue Ridge mountains, unhooking from every cable, signal and gadget and becoming hermits.....;)
I have the perspective of erfunhouse. We own a towing company and most of our business comes from the police from either accidents, arrests or driving violations. Our customers come from all income levels.
We get the blame game or entitlement mentality all day long. When a car is stolen and recovered, instead of being grateful the police found it, we get complaints - why didn't the police call us? (they did, you ignored your messages). I have no insurance coverage and why do I have to pay your towing fee? (you were cheap with your insurance, you want the government to cover your losses and now you are victimizing us as we are not getting paid).
Someone gets into an accident, their loved one is intensive care with a fractured leg and their main concern is getting $30 worth of junk out of the car. I don't understand the materialism. I agree with Gwenhwyfair that this is a condition of humanity that has been present since the beginning of time and will always be.
My husband and I gave one of our daughters a used car from our business. It had low miles, good gas mileage but some scratches and one dented door that still functioned OK. We cleaned it well and put new tires on it, but like your step son with the dirtbike, I think she is ungrateful, we over heard her call it "her ghetto car". I'm thinking go get your own car!
LOL, I did a lot of loan writing for very risky clients, like you pay every week and there is an ignition disabler in the car, if your payment doesn't clear, your car doesn't start, a couple we had GPS on because we would conduct inspections on the cars every 3 months and find out they had someone disable the disabling system so they didn't have to punch their codes in because it was embarrassing. They always complained about the vehicles, they weren't junk cars, they were good cars, they were good enough to get conventional financing cars.
It's funny Gwenhwyfair mentions Dickens, I just re-read Great Expectations and while the language changes, the discussions especially at the age of the characters stays the same.
I think it depends on the person. I'm in my twenties, I work two jobs and I attend college because I know that 10-12 dollars and hr isn't worth much in Los Angeles, especially if I want to own a home and retire comfortably. I also need to be in a financial position to help care for my mother as she ages, so I'm taking the steps to rectify this now.
well said Gwenhwyfair!!!!
We get people of all walks of life. I was coding one pt, had another with an active arterial bleed and my stable relatively healthy pt kept asking me for blankets and getting mad that I wasn't at her neck and call bseriously? We have a tiny ER you can hear us telling for crash carts, yelling "clear" and "shock again", "continue compressions"....you hear me yelling for OR, hollering for cauterizatuon....and see me zipping by bringing people meds and equipment. Seriously? And that's how our night usually goes. :/. Occasionally we get the legitimately ill pt who profusely apologizes for taking our time- that person I wait on hand and foot, they get treated like kings and queens.
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Everyone acts entitled and everyone trains the next generation to act even more entitled. Hard to blame people who are just being obedient.
But how does the cycle break, at what point do people take ownership for their own issues?
I went home at 23, first marriage broke down and I needed that year to heal, but that was all I could take LOL One year in I was like, so I bought a condo, moving next weekend - been a slice but OMG, not living with my parents anymore - nobody gets laid living with their parents LOL
Maybe the thread should be about ownership of one's own mistakes. I have made a ton, probably several tons, some of which I blamed on others, but at the end of the day were my own problems.
Maybe I should ponder the lack of accountability and the readiness to blame others for ones own misgivings, and is there an age or a life lesson which makes persons finally say, I guide this ship, failures or successes are my own doing.
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