Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: New Orleans, LA
Am I being unreasonable?
So I've been with my fiancé for 5 and a half years. We met my senior year of high school. He's 25 & I'm almost 23. We got engaged a year ago on new years, and had planned to get married on January 4, 2014.
Well weddings cost a lot of money, so we talked and decided to have a small ceremony in City Park in New Orleans with our closest friends and family (about 30 people), and then we were going to eat at a restaurant in the city afterwards. Because it'll be outside, I figured January isn't the best time and asked my fiancé if October was okay instead of this year.
Here's where the issue came in - he freaked out and started saying its too early to get married and he is scared and not ready...
Okay.. So why did he propose a year ago? And isn't six & a half years long enough to date??
I know we are young, but I'll be graduating with my masters this summer and I'm ready to take the next step, especially since I pay A LOT of the bills, etc. we live together already so I don't see why he is freaking out so much.
Anyways, I basically told him that if he's not ready now, he probably will never be. If we don't get married this year, then I'm ending it. Is this unreasonable of me? Or is it the right decision because I feel like its not fair to me to have to sit around and wait even longer.
I feel like I shouldn't have to force him to marry me. This should be a happy and exciting thing.. Not a headache.
Any input? I feel like my feelings are crushed. I know he is just probably scared, but still. :/
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