Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: Southern Ontario
I think it all depends on whether he felt pressured to get engaged? Only you really know.
If he's scared about marriage and is being honest about his fears, then acknowledging and appreciating that is more beneficial to the relationship for both concerned.
You want a marriage based on mutual, not on ultimatums - if he married you because you gave him a deadline or the threat of leaving hurried his decision, you would never be confident about your marriage, and he may end up very resentful...this rarely works out.
By his admission, you should shelve the plans, say O.K. lets work on us a bit longer without the pressure...You may find he is drifting from you and this pass will allow him to part ways...May also find, that by taking the pressure off and not talking about the plans, as though he never proposed...he may just up and say...let's do this!
either way, best in the long run for both...25 for guys is really young...
Try counselling first, you may even find you are marrying him because you are in love with the idea of it...unless you feel he is your soulmate...however, do not take it personally IF he doesn't feel the same, doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you, you cannot force feelings and you cannot force marriage. But you can decide to leave if this isn't enough for you...ball is in your court...
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