Ok I am a little confused here. I read both threads and all I see is that somehow your husband screwed up, pissed off the command but I do not understand how. He would have had to do something pretty serious to be demoted (at least in the Air force, but based on your rank abbreviations I am guessing Army) I am just trying to understand what happened. Also was this his first deployment? Being in a combat zone REALLY messes with you. Being away from your family, being shot at, explosions day and night, watching your back 24/7 it really REALLY messes with you and it changes you. Speaking purely on experience, it def tried my wife and I, and our relationship and still is some days. It is def not easy and what a lot of people don't understand is that deployments don't only adversly effect the serviceman, the family suffors too. Not knowing what is going on, not being able to call us direct at your whim, days sometimes weeks without contact really is tough on a family! So I completely understand what your going through. (even the removal from service I understand because I was involuntarily seperated from active duty and then I re enlisted in the Air National Guard doing the same job). I would like to ask what he did to get this type of punishment. (If your not comfortable saying you can PM me or tell me mind my business and that would be 100% acceptable!) but you can always respond to punishment, request clemency, and ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS utilize the legal/JAG office for ANY type of help!!!!!! ALWAYS ask to speak to a lawyer ALWAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Another thing that I might offer is that as long he is not being "Dishonorably Discharged" than he has not ruined it all. a Dishonorable is easily the worst case scenario and is almost as bad as being a felon but "other than honorable, honorable with conditions, involuntary under honorable conditions" are all possibilities as well and every one of those are just fine, he still gets veteran's preference (which adds 5-points to a job application, 10 if he is a disabled vet which he can obtain from a VA disability rating. The VA disability can be obtained for almost anythign that has happened in his career ESPECIALLY deployments, PTSD is serious and if it is a high enough disability rating (100% is about $3,000 untaxed a month lpus kids/spouse all ratings can be founf on the VA compensation website).
Another tip or pointer is if he knows he is getting out, there are TONS of places for him to start aplpying for jobs. The VA has job fairs CONSTANTLY and has programs/incentives for companies hiring vets. Another HUGE website that I HIGHLY RECOOMEND getting on IMMEDIATELY is www.USAJOBS.GOV
Set up a resume and tailor it towards specific jobs that he is applying for. That is the website that the federal government uses to hire for its agencies. I currently work for the Department of Justice under the Federal Bureau of Prisons as a Corrections officer. I am also in the NJ Air National Guard. NJ is a VERY VERY VERY expensive place to live! My wife doesn't work and I have 2 kids one on the way and we are making it...
Basically I am saying there is hope, it can be hard and trying at times but there is always hope! I pray for the best for you and if you need any further assistance with any of the info I put above, feel free to PM me or hit me up on here as I check this site just about every night!