I really hope there are other issues going on that would cause this. I'm not military, but coming from the police side of things, not everyone is cut out to be a SGT. I think it's great that he made it through the process to even get the promotion in the first place, and losing the position does not make him a bad person. Of course, this all depends on exactly what was occuring to lose the position. But it is a small percentage of people that can take that on, it's not just a matter of "well if you have X years on you should be able to do it."
I am sorry things are so rough, but I think it's really harsh to put your dogs above your husband and consider leaving him and the country just to keep them. He is a human, he is your family. I don't understand considering them family, but not him, at all. I love my dogs dearly, but I would adopt every last one of them out if there was a financial situation where we couldn't afford to make ends meet and the dogs were the deal breaker budget wise. That said, we have one son and another on the way, so perhaps my priorities are different at this point in my life. We just spent a ton of $$ on them yesterday for food for the month and other supplies. They are expensive, even on normal dog food and shopping around for the best prices on supplies. I understand rehoming them in your situation. I do not understand being so resentful of the situation that you'd leave your husband over it. A lot of people, unmarried or in unhappy/unhealthy relationships may SAY they would leave their spouse over rehoming a dog, but I just don't believe those are truely happy, healthy realtionships if one is willing to put an animal over a human. Which is why I'm assuming there must be more to this story??
As far as working vs staying at home, it is certainly no ones business but I am not sure I've ever understood why you stay at home and don't work since you two don't have kids? I think it's time to pick up at least a parttime job, they definitely don't all require schooling/training, but yes you'll have to figure out transportation. Do you have public transportation in your area? I'd look into that. With all your dog experience, I wouldn't count on a specialized line of work but at the very least you could look into the local kennels, doggie daycares, etc. Generally, they just want manual labor and some dog experience.
Does the military offer any kind of in house therapy? Couples, individual, etc? Our dept contracts through an agency that offers it. It is not reported back to the department, so you can speak freely about issues you may be having, department related or otherwise. Couples can attend as well, even when the spouse isn't on the department. Surely the military has something similar?
Oh, regarding child support - if he's had a major adjustment in pay, then you two need to go back to court to readjust the child support that he is paying. The amount is based on what he makes. It's unfortunate for the child, so hopefully the childs mother can step up and cover what she is going to lose in child support, but if it means the difference between paying the mortgage for you two or not, then it's worth looking into.
Last edited by Rerun; 12-30-2012 at 08:34 AM.