My sister married a jackass many years ago. They have since divorced. Anyway, I told her he was a jerk before they got married. I told her, that dude is not welcome in my house. She says, What will you do if we come over? I said you are more then welcome and he can sit on the porch in the snow until your ready to leave.
You wouldnt she says, Oh but I would!! And you know I would. They never visited together.
Point is, its your house and your call who you invite in and dont invite in. I figured if hes going to be a part of the family he should know right up front where he can visit and where he cant. No way I was going to put up with this jerk sittin on my sofa. Not a chance. My sister was mad for a while but she got over it.
I asked one time after they got married and she came over, Does he ever want to come with you? He did until I told him what you said. What did he say I asked. He says your a #@@#%$%^!!! Perfect I said. Thats right where I want him to be...lol
Now he knows where I stand and I wont have to put up with him any time soon..lol
We all have to put with a lot of things in the world while we'er out there in it. Rules to follow and people we have to tolerate depending on the situation we'er in. Once we get home, we make the rules there. If you dont what him in your home....Tell him to sit on the porch. Anybody that dont like it can join him on the porch.
"Money will buy you a pretty good dog, but it won't buy the wag of his tail."