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Join Date: Feb 2010
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Teachers hands really are tied. IMO alot of kids don't care about consequences and there not afraid of anything/anyone...they do & say as they please.
I hate to do the whole when I was in school....BUT my school time was in the 80's and early 90's....I did NOT want to be called to the principals office or have a teacher write a note to my parents...it was two fold...trouble at school, then a big punishment at home...no thank you! lol The stores my kids have come home and told me are beyond shocking...and we live in a districts that's rated "excellent"...so it doesn't matter where you live. Telling the teacher to "f*ck off and various other terms...walking out of the classroom if things didn't go there way...being constantly destruptive. My little brother works with high risk kids...mainly 11 -18 yrs old. I don't know how he does it or why he even cares. His molar has been broke from a kid kicking him in the mouth, stabbed with pens/pencils. Parents around...forget about it...they don't want to deal with them either. So some schools are really operating in a broke system...and I do think unions & tenure play a part in that....then you have excellent teachers that have a hard time teaching because of awful kids...yes, I called them awful. Meanwhile kids that want to learn and follow the rules suffer... |
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Location: Ohio
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I have 3 brothers...we are all two years apart. One was always ornery when we were little
, he would come home late for dinner and we would be waiting to eat...it was a rule we all sat down for dinner together... on time.My mom would sometimes punish all of us for his actions....in return we would give him heck about being late, in return because he didn't want to deal with us he would make a better effort! lol Sometimes group punishment is effective. |
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Join Date: May 2002
Location: USA
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If we are talking about the military I can see the difference, ones life depends on another, but come on now lol. I have seen disruptive behavior in a work place and the bad are let go, demoted or so on, I have worked all kinds of jobs and never got in trouble for anothers ignorance.
I don't have a problem calling kids brats either, I always say that to myself when I have to go to my daughters high school
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Join Date: May 2002
Location: USA
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They can come rebels too, and come home and ask their parents why? So unless you have a good reason why I should tell my little ones why they should be treated with disrespect and like crap? Hey I am all ears, I just can't think of a good enough reason why yet?!
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My niece is in first grade. She weighs about 35 pounds. And she has a sugar problem. Sugar bounces her off the walls. And just a little piece of candy will do it for her because she has little mass to spread it out over, kind of like some small people need less alcohol to be effected by it. Furthermore, she WANTS candy. If she thinks CANDY is involved, she will lose her mind trying to get it. She will try and get it in ways that are not acceptable. Why teachers would use candy to get kids to do what they want them to do is really a mystery to me. I know it is about as cheap as you can get, but I know my niece is not the only kid that has candy issues. To be a good teacher, you need to motivate kids, and candy is something I think should not even be allowed as a motivator. Some kids medically can't have it, some kids behaviorally shouldn't have it, it really doesn't do anything positive for the body, and plenty of negative. I don't remember regular school teachers ever dishing out candy. Oh on valentines day kids passed around candy, and sometimes for kids' birthdays, the parents brought in cupcakes or candy or something. But our teachers did not bribe us with candy.
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Join Date: Jan 2003
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I am a first year teacher, temporarily in a 3rd grade class. I'll move to kindergarten in January.
The sad fact is that teachers are being asked to do so much more than ever before. We need to teach the curriculum well enough so that EVERY child in the room learns enough to do well on standardized assessments. And it had better be individualized to each student. And it had better be quick enough to move on to the other topics that need to be covered that day. We need to be sensitive to EVERY situation and respect the decisions made by parents, even when those decisions negatively impact the student's learning. We need to be social workers and nurses. We need to figure out how to effectively communicate with parents that speak a language we have never heard of before. Yes, we need to "motivate" our students. But shouldn't these children come to school already motivated by their parents as well? How "motivated" to respect the classroom can a student be when they hear their parent's go on and on about the bad teachers? School isn't just for learning core curriculum. It is for learning how to follow directions (including how to sit quietly), how to work with others. It teaches children how to handle transitions from one activity to another. It teaches how to take responsibility. The list is endless, and totally unconnected to math, or science or language arts. Grown up life causes us all to be held responsible for the behavior of others. Ever worked with a screw up or two? Not too much fun is it? And it causes the entire work environment to suffer. Yes, there are absolutely bad teachers out there. But they are actually fairly few and far between. The rest of us care deeply about what we do and work very, very hard to provide the best education possible. Sue, I would be willing to bet that if your niece's parents asked the teacher to not provide candy as a reward, the teacher would be more than happy to comply. Have they already made that request, and been ignored? You're right, it is cheap. But after sinking our own money into classroom learning materials, cheap is often the only choice left. Feel free to provide your niece's teacher with the exact type of reward you think your niece should get. The teacher would probably be more than happy to hand that personal reward out at the same time the rest of the class gets the candy. I personally have three children in my 3rd grade class that have unconfirmed allergies to just about everything, so I make sure that during birthday parties, holiday celebrations and rewards those children only get the pre-approved food items the parents have provided. And I keep a stash I paid for and brought in myself for those times when the parents don't respond to my e-mails or phone calls that their student has been out of their special food for almost a month. As far as having the whole class lose out in a privilege, etc.? Next time maybe the students sitting near the main offender won't laugh and giggle when the student does whatever it is. And if they don't get the encouragement from the peer group, the behavior usually stops. The giggles and admiring looks from a peer group (especially with middle school kids) are all a part of the same disruptive behavior. So, the next time anyone complains about the "bad teachers", demand that the term be strictly defined. Is it a teacher that you just don't like? Is it a teacher who has failed in teaching your student anything? Is it a teacher you don't agree with, but who is over all effective? Is it a teacher who looks like a teacher you had in 6th grade, who shamed you or made you feel less than capable in some way? You would be surprised how loosely the term is used. Sheilah |
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