Having an issue with the husband, advice?

[Emoore]

Originally Posted by LifeofRiley

First of all, I agree there may not be compromise on this issue because there is absolutely no way I would agree to my partner having a conceal and carry weapon. I feel that the risks associated with a false sense of security far outweigh the questionable benefits of CCWs. In fact, I feel that common sense is the best way to protect yourself for potentially dangerous environments and situations. Statistically speaker, there is a very small probability of ever being in a position where a weapon might be an advantage. In fact, I think having one has the potential to invite more problems than prevent them. I have to say, I had no idea how popular Conceal and Carry was before I joined this forum and I have to say THAT scares me more than anything! I will be extra cautious not to accidentally offend folks in certain parts of the US as a result... not to mention make sure they never encounter my dog in an off-leash situation as even though he is not dog-aggressive, it seems some people shoot first and ask questions later.

Oh goody, does this mean it's time to ignore OP's wishes and get into a gun debate?

Don't worry, where you are the only people with guns are criminals and gang members. Good, law-abiding citizens are safely unarmed.

[Shavy]

Originally Posted by Emoore

Oh goody, does this mean it's time to ignore OP's wishes and get into a gun debate?

That's really not fair at all, considering how many posters have made comments about how necessary it is to have a CCW. People are weighing in on whether what he is doing and what she is asking for is right or unreasonable, and their own biases on guns obviously plays into their opinion.

[GSDolch]

Originally Posted by ksotto333

My husband likes shooting, I do go to the range with him, usually just to watch. He has two shotguns and a rifle. Former marine, son of a cop, family is full of cops, former cops, former military, etc.

This is obviously a man that is and has always been comfortable with guns. Once you made the decision to date and then marry him, you also made the decision to allow guns into your life. I have my CCW, the class is very interesting and full of information. I think going to the class may reassure you about him getting his license. You'll also have the chance to ask questions if you have any.

Um, I made the decision to have HIM in my life. Everything else, IMO is about mutual respect for each other, compromising and taking each others feelings into consideration.

I like how some people think my feelings on the subject don't matter. lol

[GSDolch]

so...just because I don't want to this thread to get *to* serious...


My daughter went to get her cloths off the line outside, walks outside and sees a squirrel running off with her sock!!!

baahahaha.

[Shavy]

Originally Posted by GSDolch

Um, I made the decision to have HIM in my life. Everything else, IMO is about mutual respect for each other, compromising and taking each others feelings into consideration.

I agree with this 100%. If something so greatly upset my spouse, you can be dam.ned sure I would give it a tremendous amount of thought before going ahead with it, even if I didn't agree with him.

[StryderPup]

If I may ask, what is it that makes you uncomfortable about guns?

Here is a compromise...make a deal with him...he takes the CCW class...and you get a GSD puppy

[Emoore]

Originally Posted by GSDolch

I like how some people think my feelings on the subject don't matter. lol

No, your feelings absolutely do matter. Unfortunately you're in a situation where you both have strong feelings that are opposite. It's just hard to compromise in that situation.

Would you be amenable to maybe a trial period? Say, he takes the course and then carries for X number of weeks and then you meet and re-assess? Like I said, my guess is that after a period of time, particularly as it warms up, he's not going to bother unless he's totally committed to it.

[GSDolch]

Originally Posted by Emoore

No, your feelings absolutely do matter. Unfortunately you're in a situation where you both have strong feelings that are opposite. It's just hard to compromise in that situation.

Would you be amenable to maybe a trial period? Say, he takes the course and then carries for X number of weeks and then you meet and re-assess? Like I said, my guess is that after a period of time, particularly as it warms up, he's not going to bother unless he's totally committed to it.

Thats something worth talking about with him, I would be up to do something like that.

[JeanKBBMMMAAN]

Originally Posted by Shavy

Where on earth do you people live that NOT carrying a concealed firearm is tantamount to being 'defenseless' and a threat to your life?

I think that does come into play.

Like, say, if the pigs were armed. That would be one consideration.

But if you were in an area where people were getting attacked all the time, or had reason to believe that you were in danger due to a threat and he was carrying for those reasons, then it would be something to think about. I think once he has it in his hand, you have no hand.

It sounds like you have different definitions of safety and danger. MAYBE!

To you, things are safe until they aren't.

To him, things are dangerous, until they aren't.

If that's not the reason for it, and it's an "I want" thing, I would guess that saying let's wait a certain amount of time and think it over, press the pause button, might be a time for him to consider the full meaning of what he is thinking of and how you view it.

I just feel like there's about 5 minutes of clarification between the two of you that will result in a compromise, but I don't know how long it will take to get to that 5 minutes.

He sounds like he could meet you, just maybe not tonight.

[ksotto333]

"I like how some people think my feelings on the subject don't matter. lol"

Of course your feelings matter, but after listing your husband's history and family, and the fact that he already has guns in the house, it's obvious you made the decision to accept guns also. The class will just reinforce his knowledge and comfort with guns.