Having an issue with the husband, advice?

[Jax08]

Why would there not be a compromise? Why could he not just leave the gun at home when he is out with her, or locked up when at home with her? That's crazy to say there is no way to compromise.

[TMarie]

Would you consider attending the CCW class with him? That may help you feel a bit more comfortable with him carrying. The class teaches about firearms, safety, the laws and concealed carry.

[GSDolch]

Originally Posted by BR870

Whats there to compromise over? He's not making you carry. He doesn't tell you what to carry in your purse. If he wants to legal exercise his right, and is not forcing you to participate, what is the problem?

FWIW, I have my CCW but do not carry as often as I should...

Usually when people are married and they are at odds with something compromising is usually the thing to do if you, you know, love the other person.

It effects me because I am his wife and I am with him. Personally I thought asking him to just not carry while with ME was an ok compromise.

I also wish people would read, im not TELLING him to DO anything.

I have no problem with what other people want to do, what you do does not effect me, so I don't care. You however are not in the relationship, and have not been in the situation..so I fail to see why I am getting some of the responses I am getting.

I think I've been pretty darm good at meeting him half way on this issue seeing as when we first met I wanted NO guns in the house at all. Yet we had no problem compromising on that.

[GSDolch]

Originally Posted by TMarie

Would you consider attending the CCW class with him? That may help you feel a bit more comfortable with him carrying. The class teaches about firearms, safety, the laws and concealed carry.

I wouldn't be against going. I'll be honest I doubt it'll change my mind lol. But I don't know if I can. His work is paying for it, and I don't work with him lol.

[Dooney's Mom]

Originally Posted by Rerun

You really can't compromise on this. Sometimes in life, there just isn't a compromise. Let him get the gun.

Ditto there isn't a way to compromise- It either is or it isn't. My ex husband got his CCW and at first he always carried it on him, then the novelty wore off and it just stayed in the car. Was very grateful it was in the car one night we had to stop at a not so nice gas station in a not so nice area in Georgia while traveling one night. We were driving a land rover and we were getting eyeballed while he was gassing up- I calmly pulled the gun out of the console, loaded one in the chamber and had it ready just in case something happened. I would have been a complete mess and lost my mind if I didn't have the gun. I am not afraid of guns, but I am not gun crazy either.

Now that I am single I actually plan on getting mine and getting a gun. Good luck, sorry some people are beating you up (so to speak) guns are one of those things like religion and politics, you really just don't mention it (im not being mean)

[GSDolch]

Originally Posted by Jax08

Why would there not be a compromise? Why could he not just leave the gun at home when he is out with her, or locked up when at home with her? That's crazy to say there is no way to compromise.

This is what I was thinking to. To me it seems like a good middle ground. I might try talking to him about it again when things are less heated.

[Emoore]

Originally Posted by Jax08

Why would there not be a compromise? Why could he not just leave the gun at home when he is out with her, or locked up when at home with her? That's crazy to say there is no way to compromise.

Because for those of us who carry, going unarmed isn't an option. It's like driving without a seat belt, or riding a motorcycle drunk with no helmet. It's taking an unacceptable risk, when NOT taking the risk is easy and convenient. From his point of view, what if he agreed not go carry when he was with his wife, and then they got attacked and she was raped or killed? In her point of view, this might be acceptable because she is an adult and chose to take the risk. But from his point of view, this is completely unacceptable and he'd have to live with himself.

It's easy to say, "Oh, nothing's going to happen. . . ." until it does.

[Rerun]

Originally Posted by Jax08

Why would there not be a compromise? Why could he not just leave the gun at home when he is out with her, or locked up when at home with her? That's crazy to say there is no way to compromise.

Because if he feels strongly about not being a sheep, he isn't going to want to go out without a gun on him. As someone else said - it may make him feel defenseless. Which he basically is, if he doesn't have a weapon. You have no idea when something may happen. It may NEVER happen. Or it'll happen the one time you go to the mall with your wife and she tells you that you can't take your gun.

[onyx'girl]

My husband carry's. I don't and don't like guns either. He has a gun safe for many of them, and is responsible for the ones that aren't in the safe. My license plate/registration is in his name too, so if I were to get pulled over, I could have my vehicle searched just because he carries. I go into homes where the owners have guns(in little cases attached behind the bedside stands or long guns behind doors). I assume they are loaded.
I personally won't carry, but know the reason for those that do. I resigned myself to the fact that it is what life in this world is now....

[Rerun]

Originally Posted by Dooney's Mom

Ditto there isn't a way to compromise- It either is or it isn't. My ex husband got his CCW and at first he always carried it on him, then the novelty wore off and it just stayed in the car. Was very grateful it was in the car one night we had to stop at a not so nice gas station in a not so nice area in Georgia while traveling one night. We were driving a land rover and we were getting eyeballed while he was gassing up- I calmly pulled the gun out of the console, loaded one in the chamber and had it ready just in case something happened. I would have been a complete mess and lost my mind if I didn't have the gun. I am not afraid of guns, but I am not gun crazy either.

Now that I am single I actually plan on getting mine and getting a gun. Good luck, sorry some people are beating you up (so to speak) guns are one of those things like religion and politics, you really just don't mention it (im not being mean)

That gun is COMPLETELY and totally useless to you. When real **** hits the fan, you will not have time to get it out of the vehicle, load it, and take care of business.

that is exactly the kind of situation the gets people killed. Carrying a gun shouldn't be a novelty. You either carry it, ready to go, or you don't carry it at all. JMHO