Single in Late Age

DHau · 01-03-2012, 10:06 PM

I have a friend named Pat who was just divorced and she is ready to move on with her life. She is very eager to meet single men so she can move on and find her soul mate as she calls it.

She adopted her nephew, who is around 8-10, so I believe men her age are going to think twice about becoming involved because she is 50 years old.

I have encouraged her to join Parents Without Partners and to join a bowling league either on the military base or off. Of course, I told her to pursue clubs/organizations/sports that appeal to her.

Any other advice I can give her?

onyx'girl · 01-03-2012, 10:12 PM

She should enjoy her independence for a year before she ventures into another relationship. Embrace her singleness and find herself, then she'll know the type she wants to get involved with or not.
Take this advice from someone who's been married 25 years and is the same age!!

Not sure her career, but volunteering may help her move on, and feel good about what she is contributing in life.
I remember someone saying if you want to meet a rich guy, hang out at a marina! Is money a concern for her? LOL

DHau · 01-03-2012, 10:19 PM

Of course you are right, but after being married for 30 years or so, she wants somebody to spend time with.

I will be at some point separating from my husband as well so I would like to know more about internet dating. How does this work? Ok, by now most of you have fallen off your chairs from laughing, I am quite serious. Are there rules of etiquette one must follow?

onyx'girl · 01-03-2012, 10:57 PM

My friend(and former neighbor) met her fiance on a local community dating site(internet, not sure which one) She's still with him after 3 years and sold her house/moved into his lake house. They are both mid 50's, college age/HS age kids blending the household.
She had been divorced for 12 years I think~ in and out of relationships before this one. I'd just go into it with eyes wide open,but not so suspicious that you can't meet anyone without total guard up. Kind of like a GSD!

GregK · 01-03-2012, 11:29 PM

50 is 'late age'???

katieliz · 01-03-2012, 11:48 PM

***disclaimer***please no one dis me cause you don't like jane (fonda), because this is something that could help the op and her friend. seriously.

okay on with my post. d, both you and your friend should read jane fonda's new book "prime time". it is a wonderful book, addressing just about all the issues a woman faces when growing older, changing lifestyles and/or partners, resuming dating (covers internet dating thoroughly and in a positive way), all of it. the new andrew weil book is really good too, "spontaneous happiness", but not as specifically for women. you and your friend could get only one copy of jane's book and share it and disuss it. you could even start a discussion group and ask other women to join. i know it's hard to comprehend sometimes when you haven't reached a certain age (different for everyone), where you realize that men are not the be-all end-all of everything. unfortunately their earning power many times makes a huge difference (or maybe i should say a woman's lack of earning power). alone is not necessarily lonely. wishing you all good things. no matter what you think of jane, get the book. it will help you.

RocketDog · 01-03-2012, 11:57 PM

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Originally Posted by GregK

50 is 'late age'???

LOL

I hope to be backpacking around the Tetons and Yosemite, etc then. My kids will FINALLY all be gone, and hopefully self-sufficient.

GregK · 01-04-2012, 12:08 AM

Sounds like a good plan.

DHau · 01-04-2012, 06:38 AM

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Originally Posted by GregK

50 is 'late age'???

Sorry if I offended anybody. Wrong choice of words. Maybe I should have used Dating after 50 instead.

I was just wondering if internet dating is just as it sounds. You go to a website that matches up singles, contact them and chat via instant messenging at set times.

The problem Pat has is that she doesn't have any female friends that are single. I don't either. So as she goes through this, I will learn from her.

I read somewhere that if you knew somebody who was divorced, at some point, it will start a chain reaction. I hope that's not true.

Stevenzachsmom · 01-04-2012, 09:29 AM

I've been married for a LOOONG time. Happily so. In my wildest dreams, I could not imagine being back on the dating scene. I think I could be happily single. Matter of fact my new, in her 50s, neighbor calls herself, "Happily divorced." Gardening, books, pets. Eat what I want, when I want. Nobody making demands of me or my time. I'd at least have to enjoy that for a while.

01-03-2012, 10:06 PM	#1 (permalink)
DHau Knighted Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: GA Posts: 2,802	Single in Late Age I have a friend named Pat who was just divorced and she is ready to move on with her life. She is very eager to meet single men so she can move on and find her soul mate as she calls it. She adopted her nephew, who is around 8-10, so I believe men her age are going to think twice about becoming involved because she is 50 years old. I have encouraged her to join Parents Without Partners and to join a bowling league either on the military base or off. Of course, I told her to pursue clubs/organizations/sports that appeal to her. Any other advice I can give her? __________________ Please bear with my stupid questions. This old dog is learning new tricks. lol.

01-03-2012, 10:12 PM	#2 (permalink)
onyx'girl Crowned Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: SW, MI Posts: 17,605	She should enjoy her independence for a year before she ventures into another relationship. Embrace her singleness and find herself, then she'll know the type she wants to get involved with or not. Take this advice from someone who's been married 25 years and is the same age!! Not sure her career, but volunteering may help her move on, and feel good about what she is contributing in life. I remember someone saying if you want to meet a rich guy, hang out at a marina! Is money a concern for her? LOL __________________ Jane~ Kept by Onyx, Kacie and Gideon v Wildhaus aka Karlo Last edited by onyx'girl; 01-03-2012 at 10:15 PM.

01-03-2012, 10:19 PM	#3 (permalink)
DHau Knighted Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: GA Posts: 2,802	Of course you are right, but after being married for 30 years or so, she wants somebody to spend time with. I will be at some point separating from my husband as well so I would like to know more about internet dating. How does this work? Ok, by now most of you have fallen off your chairs from laughing, I am quite serious. Are there rules of etiquette one must follow? __________________ Please bear with my stupid questions. This old dog is learning new tricks. lol.

01-03-2012, 10:57 PM	#4 (permalink)
onyx'girl Crowned Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: SW, MI Posts: 17,605	My friend(and former neighbor) met her fiance on a local community dating site(internet, not sure which one) She's still with him after 3 years and sold her house/moved into his lake house. They are both mid 50's, college age/HS age kids blending the household. She had been divorced for 12 years I think~ in and out of relationships before this one. I'd just go into it with eyes wide open,but not so suspicious that you can't meet anyone without total guard up. Kind of like a GSD! __________________ Jane~ Kept by Onyx, Kacie and Gideon v Wildhaus aka Karlo

01-03-2012, 11:48 PM	#6 (permalink)
katieliz Crowned Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: york township, mi Posts: 6,323	*disclaimer*please no one dis me cause you don't like jane (fonda), because this is something that could help the op and her friend. seriously. okay on with my post. d, both you and your friend should read jane fonda's new book "prime time". it is a wonderful book, addressing just about all the issues a woman faces when growing older, changing lifestyles and/or partners, resuming dating (covers internet dating thoroughly and in a positive way), all of it. the new andrew weil book is really good too, "spontaneous happiness", but not as specifically for women. you and your friend could get only one copy of jane's book and share it and disuss it. you could even start a discussion group and ask other women to join. i know it's hard to comprehend sometimes when you haven't reached a certain age (different for everyone), where you realize that men are not the be-all end-all of everything. unfortunately their earning power many times makes a huge difference (or maybe i should say a woman's lack of earning power). alone is not necessarily lonely. wishing you all good things. no matter what you think of jane, get the book. it will help you. __________________ mom to seraphina blue & the cashman miss jeni-take-a-ride, rescued 7/07 shangri la's great white caesar, rescued 4/09 hearthside's cinderfella (RIP 4/20/09) shep von bellefontaine (RIP 6/9/10) voodoo lily (dsh) & cricket (african grey)

01-03-2012, 11:29 PM	#5 (permalink)
GregK Elite Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: North Central Illinois, USA Posts: 1,292	50 is 'late age'???

01-04-2012, 12:08 AM	#8 (permalink)
GregK Elite Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: North Central Illinois, USA Posts: 1,292	Sounds like a good plan.

01-04-2012, 09:29 AM	#10 (permalink)
Stevenzachsmom Knighted Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Maryland Posts: 2,494	I've been married for a LOOONG time. Happily so. In my wildest dreams, I could not imagine being back on the dating scene. I think I could be happily single. Matter of fact my new, in her 50s, neighbor calls herself, "Happily divorced." Gardening, books, pets. Eat what I want, when I want. Nobody making demands of me or my time. I'd at least have to enjoy that for a while.

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