I cant take this anymore.. (Venting)

[slaen]

Ok. So I can get everyone up to speed here.
I am a pretty down to earth person and I don't usually tell anyone my feelings or vent in anyway. But this time I have to talk to someone ya know because I...... UGH!

Anyways..

My girl and I have been together for 2 1/2 years and we are splitting up. I am so mad right now I cant even think straight.
This girl has no consideration for anyone or their feelings.
I feel I am too nice of a guy and I am letting her stay for the next few weeks so she can afford to move her stuff out. I am trying to keep it as civil as I can.

At night my 8 month old GSD Kai sleeps in the bedroom with us. I havent crated him at night and he does wonderful at night in the bedroom. I just shut the door to the room stopping him from exploring the rest of the house while I cant watch him (cause I am sleeping). I wake up at 8am for work, she leaves earlier at 6am. So yesterday morning my ex wakes up and lets him out of the room and leaves for work and doesnt put him back in the bedroom with me like usual. I wake up 2 hours after her for work and hes sleeping on the couch.. No big deal.. THIS MORNING I wake up a half hour early to a coughing/hacking/crying sound, I jump out of bed and sprint to the living room to find Kai had counter surfed a gatorade bottle and was choking on a peice he tore off. So I lay him on his side and open his mouth, I can see the peice thats back there so I grab it and pull it out. After I did that he threw up. I grabbed him and started to cry, I have never been so scared, I thought I was watching my dog die. He gets up and runs around for a sec then comes by me and lays down. I grabbed him again and he seems fine I checked his mouth and nothing was in there he was acting fine, just startled from what happened, I watched him for another 10 min and he is back to normal.

I grabbed the bottle and find the peices on the floor and pretty much peice the bottle back together and all the peices are there. So I throw it away and clean up the gatorade and puke with the carpet cleaner. Then I get mad because my "girlfriend" knows that he is too young to be left alone and she knows to put him back in the room with me. I know that she didnt know he was going to do that but she shouldnt have left the opportunity open for it to happen. Or if she was running that late then just call me and tell me, I will get up and bring him in the room with me.

I mean it literally takes one treat and say Kai, BOX! And he will run in to the bedroom either in to his crate or jump on the bed and lay down next to me. All you do is follow him and throw the treat to him. And thats it! Hes learned that before a certian time he comes in to bed, when I say box its crate. And at 11 and 3 my mom stops by and lets him out (she lives a mile from me).

I mean I know we are breaking up but why do people have to act like this. She HAD to have known he would get in to something. HES STILL A BABY. I mean CMON.

During the two years I have been with this girl I have been cheated on as I have recently found out by 3 different guys.
She does not care for anyone but herself. I knew she cheated and I spent the last year trying to repair the damage with her. And all was well until she decided to add the guy she slept with as a friend on Facebook. And I had to ask, Umm, What are you doing? Why are you keeping in contact with that guy? Now I know some people are going to say Its just facebook. WRONG its the same thing as email, phone or meeting in person. Cause you are still in contact with them and there is no reason she should even care to talk to him if she loves me. And if she is talking to him he knows what he can get from her and will try it again. And she has the nerve to say I am controlling her because she cant talk to him! Then she has the nerve to say shes unhappy with me because I cant get over the cheating thing. Well she didnt talk to him it wouldnt be a flash back in my mind.

At one point I did love this girl but when she leaves I will be in my house with no one except Kai. And I dont have a lot of close friends and Kai is my best friend. And she should have known better.
I think she likes to hurt me purposely. If I hadnt woken up in time.

Im too shaken I cant type anymore..

Sorry.. I had to get this out.

[Jax08]

Can I ask why she is still sleeping in the bedroom? You don't need to answer that...just think about it. Here's my take on it. If you are going to let her stay there then move her lying, cheating butt to the couch. Inform her she is to stay out of the bedroom and not go anywhere near your dog or she'll find her stuff sitting on the curb.

[aubie]

Ditto to Jax: I think it's time for Mrs. Missy to sleep on the couch if she's going to stay with you, leaving Kai and you to the bedroom

[BlackPuppy]

Sorry. I sounds like you're better off without her. She obviously doesn't respect your wishes, or care about your puppy. I'm glad he's okay.

[Jax08]

Great minds...get confused together!!

She's using you...big time...and she's probably not taking any decisions you make to seriously either.

[doggiedad]

you should of left the GF a long time ago. don't worry
you'll fine another GF and it doesn't matter
how much you love the ex-girlfriend because the next woman
you meet you could love more. you should only think the relationship is going to be better. it's the ex's loss not yours.

set your alarm clock. when your ex leaves for work make sure
you get up to secure the dog.

[GSDBESTK9]

I agree with everyone. You are better off without her. And I give it to you, if I was a guy in your shoes, I would have thrown her out if I had found out she cheated on me and no way she would still be sleeping on the same bed with me. BIG NO NO. Trust me, people like her are NOT worth it. There are plenty of people out there that will treat you and love you way better/more than her.

[JerzeyGSD]

I agree that she should be moved to the couch, esp. after the last incident with Kai but I know that that is easier said than done. It sounds as though you have been and continue to be extremely understanding and forgiving and, at some point, you're going to have to stop putting her so high on your hierarchy of important things. You have Kai. Let her take your ex's place in the ladder and her spot on the bed. (It's hard learning to sleep alone but Kai will get pretty big and she'll cuddle you!)

It's such a simply thing to put a puppy back into the bed room, esp. when she is trained. It shows a blatant lack of respect for your desires (in what I am assuming is your house) as well as for your puppy's LIFE. When Jerzey was around that age she was fine in the bedroom but, you better believe, if she got out of that room she would always find SOMETHING to munch on... it's just how puppies are and I am assuming she knows that since she agreed to probably raise this puppy with you.

If it wasn't for this incident with the gatorade bottle I probably would just say to do what you need to do to feel okay with the situation (and if that means letting the ex sleep in the bedroom, than do it) but this is too serious and too scary to let her "get away with it" so to speak.

At some point, she is going to have to suffer the consequences of her actions. She has never really had to do right by you, it seems. She has always been in control of how things go in the relationship (and, yeah, I totally understand the Facebook thing and would be about it. There is no reason for them to talk if she wants to make things work with you, I think your reasoning is totally justified but back to the point...) You need to take control of this, if for no other reason than to keep Kai safe, and to put the ex out of the bedroom and on the couch. If this guy she cheated with is such a good friend than she can go stay at his place.

Keep us updated on how you're doing.

ETA: I think you should give her a time limit by which she needs to move out. After that, just put her stuff out in the yard.

[slaen]

Yeah you guys are right. I guess its just beyond my realm of comprehension to think she could be like this.

I guess I wasnt raised to hurt people like she does. I mean she does it with out even the slightest remorse of guilt.

But this is the last straw. Dont mess with my dog. hes like a brother to me.

[UConnGSD]

Well, here's how I see it and what I would do. She has cheated, not once, not twice, but three times. She almost killed your dog. It is time she leaves. Perhaps she can bunk in with one of her Facebook pals. I'm sorry but you are just too nice!