I cant take this anymore.. (Venting)

[GSDLVR76]

Originally Posted By: Jax08
Tomorrow Morning.....Take a vacation day. Go get some boxes. Pack her stuff. Put it on the curb. Change the locks. Call her and tell her that her stuff is on the curb, come get it and don't ever cross your path again. I would not give her any warning at all.

I second this! As a matter of fact, I would start packing her crap now in garbage bags and put them outside. The sooner the better in this case.

[Jax08]

Good for you! Once this is over you will feel like a huge weight is off your shoulders. I really agree with Katieliz..take some time alone for yourself and really figure out what you want.

You need to go get that jeep until it is in her name. Who paid for the jeep? If she gets in to an accident, who can be sued? Her for driving? Or you for legally owning?

Danielle has the ticket!!

Quote:Slaen forgot to add I know you are hurting but you arent the one who ran around...you deserve so much better. Forget boxes use trash bags or just toss it in the yard.

So glad the puppers is ok....Go Visit Fred have a few beers and let the pups play. It iwll make you feel better

[Liesje]

Originally Posted By: SlaenUPDATE:


I just told her she needs to go. But she has a Jeep that is in MY name cause she couldnt get a car in hers. The insurance is in MY name. I said I dont care what you have to do but get that car out of my name or find a new one.

ACK you just reminded me that I sold a car for my dad last weekend and forgot to remind him to cancel the insurance on it! Hey your vent post has done some good.

I wouldn't sympathize with her. Like I said, you are either together or you aren't. Since you aren't, call the insurance and drop the vehicle. If she needs it so bad she can sign up on her own. If the title is in your name, sign it over unless she actually owes you money for it. Then I would just be taking that Jeep back

[Vinnie]

Originally Posted By: LiesjeI wouldn't sympathize with her. Like I said, you are either together or you aren't. Since you aren't, call the insurance and drop the vehicle. If she needs it so bad she can sign up on her own. If the title is in your name, sign it over unless she actually owes you money for it. Then I would just be taking that Jeep back

I agree with Lies.
But not only would I sign over the title but I would insist that she come with you to the motor vehicle department and have that title changed. If she won't, tell her that it stays parked at your house until she does. There's no "Mr. Nice Guy" when it comes to this stuff, trust me. You can get into some big time trouble if she does something dumb with this vehicle while it's still in your name.

[Cassidy's Mom]

Do NOT drop the insurance until the title is in her name! Otherwise, you'll be liable and uninsured - bad situation.

[Jax08]

Originally Posted By: VinnieYou can get into some big time trouble if she does something dumb with this vehicle while it's still in your name.

thank you! That's what I was thinking too!

[Chantell]

Originally Posted By: SlaenUPDATE:


I just told her she needs to go. But she has a Jeep that is in MY name cause she couldnt get a car in hers. The insurance is in MY name. I said I dont care what you have to do but get that car out of my name or find a new one.

If she does not bring the jeep back to you, call the cops report it stolen, it is under your name, this same thing happend to a girl that used to work for me, cops had to get her car for her! Good luck!!!

[SylvieUS]

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The reason she's still sleeping in the bedroom is in his post. He still loves her...

I suspect he's hoping this "I'm going to leave you for good AND I REALLY MEAN IT THIS TIME DARNNIT! You have x weeks to get out!!" Gets her to say "I see your point, you're right, I can't live without you, I love you too, I"ll unfriend him, please forgive me, I"ll change" blah blah blah.

If that wasn't what he was hoping, with all the crap she's pulled, it would simply be "get out. Now." I'm sure she has some money stashed somewhere...those kind normally do.

That being said...it's 2 1/2 years of history, and it's -hard- to let go and move on. If you've been together that long, there has to be some good times in there too. Times she's a decent human being. (listen to the voice of experience, I've been doing the same routine a looong time too, minus the cheating, but I know the "Doesn't help with bills, doesn't always have a job, but saves money while I pay all the bills syndrome all-too-well) After 2+ years, their family starts to feel like yours and vice versa, shared history, you know what to expect from them, them from you, etc. It's comfortable. It's routine. Some of us don't do well with change.

You might be saying to yourself "But...we've been through so much, and we're still together. I know she'd never leave me, and i"m leaving her..."

Lemme tell you. It's not 'just' you she's not leaving. It's the lovely warm house, free bill-payer, free food...and again, I"m not judging, cause I've walked that road a long time. I just finally faced reality.

All that being said? Whatever you decide to do, you have my support As far as Kai? Whatever time your...female...has to leave for work? Set your alarm for 5 minutes after. Go get your dog. Bring him back to bed. Because she's not going to do it. She cares about...herself. And thats it.

Best of luck to you no matter what! Give the puppy an extra snuggle for me.

-Sylvie

[lmkersnick]

Originally Posted By: SlaenUPDATE:


But she has a Jeep that is in MY name cause she couldnt get a car in hers. The insurance is in MY name.

Actually, no, -- SHE doesn't have a Jeep -- IT BELONGS TO YOU. You get to keep and sell - to her if she wants to buy, and don't sell it cheap just because it's her...

You deserve better than her.

[middleofnowhere]

There are several things that concern me -
The OPs apparent need to "rescue" a needy woman - a party woman deeply in debt (I have never understood this one guys)
This creates an unhealthy relationship from the get go.
So - my suggestion -- next time let it (the needy woman) go, look for someone with a healthier situation
Love her? What I see is a need to keep rescuing her until she is grateful. Ain't gonna happen so just pretend that it did, pretend that this is amecable & move her out.
Protracted splits don't work real well. (Old and experienced here).

If you can't move her out (you may need an attorney to do this and you may be liable for some of her bills -- more I think about this you need an attorney) get up when she does to safeguard your dog. Two hours earlier? Too bad. It is your apparent choice to have her live there.

The relationship is an unhealthy situation so I would suggest that you also find a counselor to help you deal with the issues this has exposed.

Good luck.