I cant take this anymore.. (Venting)

[Crabtree]

Slaen
This songs for you!
Warning to those who don't like strong language, don't listen!

http://listen.grooveshark.com/#/song..._Done/21488838

Lyrics.
http://www.lyricsdir.com/reckless-ke...ou-lyrics.html

[ozzymama]

Wow Sandra! Those are tough lyrics!

Slaen, kick her bottom to the curb, protect yourself and best of luck. But I would make darn sure you have a lawyer involved if for no other reason than to protect your equity.

[Crabtree]

Originally Posted By: ozzymamaWow Sandra! Those are tough lyrics!

Slaen, kick her bottom to the curb, protect yourself and best of luck. But I would make darn sure you have a lawyer involved if for no other reason than to protect your equity.

Yes they are Patti but it's still funny.
That is why I put a warning on it.

[IliamnasQuest]

Slaen, I totally sympathize with you on what you're going through. I, too, am one of those "too nice" people who has found myself in the position of being taken more than once.

It's not a bad thing to be a giver, until you run into a taker. It can start out well ... you feel good for giving, and they treat you good because they like getting things. But the feelings on their side are false. YOU fall in love, THEY fall in love with what they can get. And after a while they get bored with what they can get and they start finding "stuff" on the side, with zero concern for what they're doing to your heart in the process.

When you're a giver, it's hard to avoid the takers. It's in your nature to be caring and giving and generous. It takes a long time to learn how to hold back and not give so much - which is necessary if you're going to find someone who truly loves you for who you are and not for what you can do for them.

I won't call your soon to be ex girlfriend any names. There's a part of her that you once loved and I'm sure you had wonderful times. I think that those memories should still be wonderful and that you shouldn't cheapen the relationship (regardless of the fact that she already has). You loved her, things went bad, and now an amicable parting is the best if possible. A bad parting doesn't make things any better, and calling her names only lowers your worth. I think you've done wonderfully here in this thread in not being nasty toward her, and that shows a lot about YOU and your level of quality. You're a class act.

You've gotten some good, logical advice about tenancy and eviction, as well as covering your butt as you go through this. I would highly recommend that you move any important papers and items into your bedroom and keep the door locked at all times. My brother's ex (another cheating woman) chose to move out while he was at work and she stripped the place, taking things like the titles to his vehicle, the GPS for the plane, some of his furniture - and she put his router in the oven and turned the oven on to ruin it. This woman was just a bit more than psycho, I will admit. In hindsight, Jeff would have hidden away his important stuff but he never really thought she'd do that. Oh - and she left the house with the front door wide open and he has two INDOOR ONLY cats who could have gotten out and gotten killed. She knew that.

So protect yourself. I think you're handling things in a way that will allow you to respect yourself afterwards, and that's important. As a giver, you would probably feel bad (although you shouldn't) if you treated her harshly during this break-up. It will be satisfying enough to know that she is really going to regret her actions once she's without you and can see how much you really did for her.

Best of luck to you - and I hope that you give yourself time to heal after this break-up. It's really easy for a giver to rush right back into a relationship with a taker (been there, done that, regretted it immensely). Enjoy some bachelor life, spend some money on YOU and Kai for a change, and the next time you are really attracted emotionally to a woman you will hopefully see who she really is before you get too involved. Some people are so good at hiding who they truly are, though .. it's difficult.

Melanie and the gang in Alaska
... happy to be single and likely to stay that way forever now ..

[LisaT]

Great post Mealanie.

[Crabtree]

Originally Posted By: LisaTGreat post Mealanie.

I applaud your insight Mealanie. Very well said.

[SouthernThistle]

Originally Posted By: GSDolchETA: I know in my state, when she goes to move you can call the local PD, tell them situation and they may have a police officer come out while she is moving to make sure nothing happens. This happened to my friend when we were trying to move her out of her ex's. He was a jerk, told her she couldnt have her stuff and his mom tried to say she wasnt going to take her (my friends) washer with her.

Having a cop there may help in case she decided to bring her friends..which, to be honest I wouldnt put it past her.

I second this! My family has done this before with a [now estranged] family member.

[DSudd]

Originally Posted By: JerzeyGSD

SO TRUE! It's disgusting how selfish people are, esp. when you have been nothing but loyal to them.

I think you've gotten a ton of great advice. I hope that you're able to figure this out in a way that causes the least amount of stress for you and Kai.

Sorry I gotta disagree, true there are people who are not loyal but there are also many that are.

I would be very careful of leaving Kai with her unsupervised. It is amazing the things people are capable of when they are upset.

[Tarheel]

You are way too nice-I would have kicked her to the curb a long time ago. I live with five German Shepherds, much more rewarding than humans!!

[Tetley's Mom]

Haven't seen any updates from you -- so I hope things are going better Slean.