How often are you changing the pads? I would change them after every pee break if she's bleeding really heavy. As for going after the pads, all I can recommend is give her praise when she's not going after them, and change them often enough that she won't want to. If you need to crate her, take the diaper off and give her a chance to clean herself, that's what I do and it seems to keep my girl happy. I agree with msvette2u, the risk of getting incontinent is way lower than the risk of pyo, and pyo is almost always deadly.