I then use all my methods of I'm the alpha
I ask her to go down , I ask her to go to her bed I ask her to get her toy yo focus on and he just jump right back in the bed or sofa and on me and the more I get mad the more she thinks it's a game
How do I mak her understand that I'm the boss at that time
( if hubby is near by she is good for him )
Me she does not listen to
I'm not a trainer, just a pet owner. But I think that training with calmness, confidence, and especially consistency can make a big difference--not so easy for me to explain. Body language, posture, and tone of voice are very important when interacting with and training dogs. I don't mean you have to be a drill sergeant. I'm not a loud person, but I am confident around my dogs and they know what to expect from me. It might help to watch some online videos of trainers or successful owners interacting or training their dogs, or try to pay attention to your husband's demeanor or body language--whatever it is that makes your pup respond to him more than to you, or you could sign up for some training classes (if you haven't already), or some additional classes if you've already taken some.
Watch your tone of voice. It might help to lower you voice just a bit when giving your dog a command (use your higher voice for praise and to get your dog excited and for playing). Don't ask your dog to do something, tell her to do it--I've had to remind my husband of that before. He had never had indoor dogs before marrying me, and his voice tended to raise at the end of a command, like he was asking them a question, and the dogs just didn't obey that tone as well as they obeyed mine.
Try not to repeat commands. If your pup doesn't listen the first time (like if you say "sit" or "down," or "off" to remove her from the couch, and she doesn't listen...physically guide her to the right action. Repeating commands just teaches your dog that you don't mean what you say the first time. If she's grown accustomed to not listening to you, it may take her some time to realize you mean business, but just be calm and consistent, and she should eventually start responding to you on the first command.
Easier said than done, but try not to get angry or frustrated when working with your pup...she will sense your energy and may get frustrated or amped up in response. An example: when one of my shepherds, Levi, was a teenager he was jumping and pulling away from me when I had him in a sit stay trying to trim his nails. He has white nails, they're very easy to trim, and we had done this many times. I was getting angry with him because I knew he knew what the correct behavior was. However, the more frustrated I got, the more he squirmed. I had to walk away from him for 5 minutes and try again. When I came back with a happy calm attitude, he sat down, did the behavior, and we were done with his nails in a few minutes.
Try to end training on a positive note. You can keep training sessions short. Give your pup lots of praise when she does something right. And perhaps, most importantly, try to have fun with her (as I'm sure you do) and deepen your bond.
Since I can't talk to you in person or see you interact with your dog, I can't really say if some or none of what I just wrote is applicable to your situation. As I said, I'm not a trainer or a dog expert, I've just read some books, taken some classes, and had several GSDs. Good luck with your girl and keep us updated!
[Edited to add: also, in my opinion, as long as your pup gets plenty of exercise, training, and attention from you and your family, I don't see anything wrong with crating her with a safe chew toy when she needs to calm down. I would try to make the crate a positive place and not a place of punishment though.]