Serious Question & Debate about when to admit that you are just not getting through

[codmaster]

Originally Posted by Mrs.K

Thank you. I have very mixed feelings about it. Most of it is my fault. I put her through the changes that have triggered something. But a dog that is right in his head would have never dealt and coped with it the way she did.

And now that she is gone, it's a totally different atmosphere. I don't have to yell anymore, I can turn around knowing that there will be no lunging, yelping, growling.

I don't have to worry about the neighbors dogs being out the same time mine are. I miss her so much, I hate myself for having done it but at the same time it's a huge relief.

My deepest sympathy! Doesn't sound like you had any choice, and made the best decision!

[sit,stay]

You did the right thing. It was a difficult choice to make, but you did the right thing for her.
((Hugs))
Sheilah

[krystyne73]

I am sorry for your loss, but I think you put an anxious mind at rest. You made a hard decision and I pass no judgment. Peace be with you and your family. RIP
((((hugs))))

[G-burg]

As for those that are going to judge... if I wanted to get rid of her I would have left her in Germany and not gone through all the hazzle to bring her to the US.

None of you lived with her on a daily basis. None of you know what it's like to watch out 24/7 so she did not lung after another dog. We've had good time, very good times but after that surgery she wasn't the same dog. It triggered something in her and it never stopped.

Exactly!

Doesn't really matter what others think.. The bottom line is... you had to do what was best for you and the others in your household.. Living with a dog that is truly aggressive isn't easy, even for the most experienced.. The stress alone, of the constant worrying becomes so overwhelming to the point it consumes your life and the others, along with yourself will suffer..

Second guessing ourselves is part of the grieving process and in time the hurt and sadness will subside and you can move forward, seeing all the good you did..

[pyratemom]

Hugs to you. You made the decision that needed to be made for her and for you. She is at peace now and you were there with her to help her to the bridge. Don't beat yourself up. We all second guess ourselves in these situations with What if? but then we find we did the right thing.

[Wolfiesmom]

Originally Posted by Mrs.K

The thing that gets me. Why did I buy Judge? Why did I take in the foster, why did I board a dog, why did I take in the Shorthaired pointer who was straying around...

Maybe it could have all been prevented if I didn't do all these things.

Mrs K .... You took all of these dogs in because you have a big heart. And who could resist little Judge! He's so adorable! I don't think you could have prevented this, it seemed inevitable. If Zenzy was turning on even Yukon, then something in her snapped. You were there for her and did the right thing. You helped her find peace from what was obviously a tormented mind. Don't beat yourself up about anything you did or didn't do. You are good person, and a wonderful Mom to your pack.

[Lilie]

Many hugs to you Mrs. K. I admire your loyalty to your entire pack. You are responsible for all the little lives in your care, and you had to do what was best for them as well.

[paulag1955]

Mrs. K, I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it's hard not to blame yourself but really, you did everything you could and Zenzy is at peace now. You gave her the best life you could and you made sure she wasn't alone and scared when she passed. I think you did well.

[PupperLove]

Mrs. K, I am so sorry for what you have gone through...

The scenarios had run through my mind when Jackson was at his worst in his fear period. I thought, I can't give him away, I either have to keep him, or I may have to put him down in the future. Vets, trainers, and his breeder were worried about him. I cried and lost sleep and worried and wondered WHY MY DOG? It's extremley stressful and I remember my head feel like it was actually spinning from all the stress and the thought of losing him.....

I don't think anyone really has the right to pass judgement on a situation like this unless they have personally been there. There are so many factors such as the extra time, extensive training, vet costs, extra caution, and constantly having to watch them, that people don't expect to have to do with a dog when they adopt it, and IMO shouldn't HAVE to do when it comes to a PET dog. It is alot to take in, and usually ALWAYS unexpected at the time of adoption. That is alot to weigh against the safety of others and the quality of life and the chance of recovery. It's extremley stressful...as you know.

Who knows what could have happened during her surgery...and who knows what type of a reaction a certain dog may have to the anestetic (sp?). The most important thing is that you are keeping the rest of your dogs SAFE, and yourself safe. If she turned on her fellow dogs, you never really know how it was progressing and if she would have redirected at you or your husband at some point. You will always wonder WHAT IF. I don't know when or how I would draw the line but I think you did the right thing. It's a tough call, but now everyone is safe. You are an experienced pet dog owner, and something in you KNEW it was time if you made that decision. So don't second guess yourself and try not to beat yourself up.... ((HUGS)) !!

[ChristenHolden]

OH Mrs K I'm so sorry she was such a pretty dog I'm sorry for your loss (hugs)