I agree with Doggiedad, up the training asap. Enforce strict NILIF, there are a number of threads on this or you can google it if you aren't sure what it is. It sounds like your male is or has stepped into the leadership role and you need to get that back.
Leerburg.com has some articles on being a leader you might find helpful. I'm not great on posting links or I would find it for ya. Or someone will read your post later and can help you out with those.
Good luck to you and I hope you keep us updated!