Do joint obedience sessions with her and the dog, she needs to know the commands and the dog has to learn respect.
Respect is best earned not with being swatted by a newspaper but being a calm assertive leader, have her exercise him, play with him, feed him, all the things you normally would do so that he learns that good things come from both of you and that you are equal.
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Koda & Zazu - 5 year old male cats
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