Jan it is so hard to lose anyone unepectedly however suicide is so hard to aacept or understand.As a counselor/social worker it is my my greatest fear w/ many kids involved with our court. suicide rates are growing ,particularly wiyth men in their forties and fifties . There are some new blood tests that are being developed that may help determine who is at risk for suicidal ideations and suicide. The problem is that with many young people they face an emergency or a crisis and because they havent been through enough experiences in life they cant see the other side. the other issues is guys just dont show depression the same way women do and young people may not show signs that considered classic depressive symptoms. Recently Lee Thompson from Rizzoli& Isles commited suicide. If you look at him he made the transition from child star to adult. Well loved ,respected strong family all the protective factors we see as being safeguards. I think the problem is that the individual ses themselves trapped and unable to even visualize a way to change or lessen the pain.Ive had kids in anger do something reckless and end up dead ,seen people who are chronically ill kill themselves. There is no one answer for why it happensbut the reality isthat for survivors like you,your son and the young man's parents there is the never ending questionof what could we doto stop this. Will there be what is called a psychological autopsy,its where mental health people look at the circumstances and try to figure out what happened. Your church may want to contact a mental health center or a christian based counseling service. Talking about this allows the kids to heal and talking with someone not involved intimately with this situation alows them to express wityh out worrying they might say something that will upset a loved one or friend. Let me know if I can help.
GSD Rescue 2/16/2002