How frustrating. I remember way way back when I had ferrets I had been to three different vets before I finally found one that really knew his stuff. He was great with ALL my animals.
And then he moved.
And then I searched and searched and searched .... until I found the fabulous holistic vet I have now.
Not sure if you can do what I did in your area ... I set up "interviews" with three different vets before I chose the one I'm with right now.
I had my views on what I wanted to do, and he had his experience, knowledge, etc. We had a great chat (yes, I paid for the visit!) for over an hour, and I was thrilled with being able to work "WITH" him and my dog, not against him.
I'm sorry for you, and I wish you luck in your search.